beckybrox
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Reged: 14/08/2008
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Today nest looks like it has all been stirred up with big stick, stuff every where,nest emptying tomorrow at noon!
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jac4man
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Reged: 07/01/2008
Posts: 11
Loc: Cambridge
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My son goes off to Uni next weekend, not sure how everything is going to fit in the car! The "must remember to pack" list seems never ending. I think the realisation of living away from his "home comforts" is now starting to dawn. I am trying to be really positive for his sake, but know I will probably fall apart on the way home!
Good luck for tomorrow and let us know how it goes, will be thinking of you.
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ejane
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Reged: 30/01/2008
Posts: 390
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Nest undergoing redistribution of resources!
Son left 3 years ago and D moved into his larger room. He's now graduated and come home - D now going to Uni next week. Both rooms look like hell on earth!
When D goes he is moving back into her room - his old room! He got a 1st in Psychology - clever boy and now wants to study medicine so he will be here for the rest of the year as he applies for Medical School....Presumably, he will then be off again...
Oh my days - if I'd realised how 'un- empty' our nest would be when son 1st left I don't think I would have felt quite so bereft...
Thinking of you other mums as you make the transition too...
Lots of love
ejanexx
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marymary
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Reged: 16/05/2007
Posts: 526
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I'm thinking of you all, too. My little nest started emptying 2 years ago and it seemed so painful at the time, but life has gone on and we have got used to the changes. ED is going back for her final year tomorrow. It's been lovely having her home for the summer but I'll also appreciate the space and tidiness (!) of term time.
A big hug to any of you who needs one.
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Peregrine
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Reged: 04/02/2008
Posts: 3756
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My nearly empty nest starts Sunday. Took D shopping today for previsions, she kept saying "how much"??? She has no idea how much things cost. I think she will be living on pasta for 3 years, she bought a humugous bag!!! Stuff she is taking is spilling out of her bedroom and slowly creeping downstairs. I've got to write down what colours go together when putting a load in the washing machine. I will miss her dreadfully.
perry
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Foxie
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Reged: 09/08/2007
Posts: 4024
Loc: South London
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Hi Perry
Don't worry about a colour list for the washing machine - just give your daughter a packet of colour catchers. She can just bung everything in together then.
Foxie x
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In your journey through life, take what works for you and let the rest go. Susan Jeffers
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Peregrine
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Thanks for the tip Foxie. Do they really work???? She would lamp me one if she got a mucky looking pink top that was previously white  
perry
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dbverycherry
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Reged: 24/02/2007
Posts: 3538
Loc: Kent UK
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 Got two & gained two !
My nest box is fit to burst and with rather big chicks here tonight.
21 year old son has his old school mate over and who stayed for the evening meal and both are now watching a movie with my OH.
Daughter and her boyfriend came home about half an hour ago wanting to be fed!
Soon our 19 year old daughter will be off to Nottingham Fashion University, taking her and all her stuff up on the 3rd October.
Son is going back to Norwich, studying at the University of Arts, this Sunday to hopefully sign up for a nest there for himself during the week.
What will I do with all the space and spare time when they finally fly the nest?!
 I have plans which involve a luxury holiday brochure
and bottle of cherry b  Seeing as there won't be much need for Mrs DBV the taxi driver or cook and maid   ...
dbverycherry
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Chickadee
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Reged: 28/03/2008
Posts: 3448
Loc: South Wales
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It is hard isn't it - reminds me of my two sons leaving - 6 and 8 years ago now! You do feel forlorn when you drive off leaving them alone for the first time - but they quickly settle down and you get used to their absence even though you miss them like mad. And you can all congratulate yourselves on a job well done - you have brought them up, made sure they got an education which has enabled them to get a place at university - such an achievement! And you have the strength to let them go - probably the hardest thing we have to do as parents, but also the most important.
So best wishes to all your fledglings as they fly the nest and to you as you tidy up after them!
DBVC the holiday brochure and cherry brandy sound like a good idea!!!
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Foxie
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Reged: 09/08/2007
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Loc: South London
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Hi Perry
Yep they work, only thing to remember is to use each one only once!
Foxie x.
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amelica2
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Reged: 21/07/2008
Posts: 1210
Loc: Beds.
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see Sallykins post of today (Well, this is it) under Your Lives for more on empty nesters!!
amelica2
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issi
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Reged: 30/09/2007
Posts: 3066
Loc: Surrey
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Have a laugh when you drive up the motorway. I remember OH and I driving our daughter to uni, car packed to the roof, and we passed car after car with some spotty teenager and their parents, goods packed to the roof, and the most common sight was the large pack of toilet rolls sticking up on the back seat!
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Linby
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Reged: 30/07/2008
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I only have one D she left home to live with her partner 7 years ago. I remember thinking before she left what colour I was to decorate her room. I just did not realise how I would feel, but when I went into the empty room an overwelming feeling that come over me was horrid, I cried and cried and cried,But when we see each other now we have special times together and talk more.xx
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Sue63
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Reged: 16/09/2008
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Just left my eldest son at university and didn't realise how hard it would be coming home,the house seems so different and quiet. Also my youngest son is upset as he was so close to his brother. Made me feel guilty for not having any more children to keep him company! The emptiness feels overwhelming at the moment.
Please reassure me this is normal and we will adjust?
I am trying to be positive, just feels so hard today. Thanks x
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issi
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Reged: 30/09/2007
Posts: 3066
Loc: Surrey
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Sue63, your feelings are absolutely normal and they will pass - honestly. Your youngest son will adjust too and he will benefit from having a brother who paves the way for him in the future.
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Friendlyfifer
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Reged: 15/02/2008
Posts: 69
Loc: Fife
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Well my son has just joined the Police and has gone off to Police college for 14 weeks, only coming home at the weekend (with a huge pile of washing I might add!). I'm actually quite enjoying the peace and quiet and ownership of the tv remote! I've never lived on my own before, but I'm starting to think I might like it. Time will tell!
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rcey
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Reged: 28/05/2008
Posts: 578
Loc: Surrey
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Took mine back yesterday to Leicester - dead give away was all cars piled high with the duvet thrown in at the last minute - too funny to see!
Sue 63 - I posted elsewhere about the siblings - I totally under estimated the effect that it would have on YD ( I only have the 2 girls) and she had a mini meltdown after about 3 months. At first she was all jokes about taking over her sisters life, rooms, clothes, but then it really hit home. I wish someone had warned me as I didn't look for any signs and just presumed that she was happy with her new status as an only child in the house. It didn't help that my hubs travels a lot and she was now completely under the microscope. It does get better but don't under estimate it and you will all be fine. Can your youngest go and visit his brother? I am sending my YD to her sister for a few days - I think it will be good for them and also for YD to see what a Uni town is like. Good luck and cyber hugs for you xx
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lori62
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Reged: 22/09/2008
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only just joined the site and went straight to this forum. eldest son off on saturday to exeter. just reading all your posts made me cry - am dreading it and know i will probably be in tears for days.
nice to know so many others are going through the same thing
definately will use this as support over the next few weeks
watch this space!
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Sue63
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Reged: 16/09/2008
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I joined this forum to get some reassurance and support when my eldest son started uni last Saturday. Everyone was so reassuring and it was great to know my feelings were normal! I am feeling a little better now as my son has texted me and written me a very long blog about the fun he is having. He is even enjoying cooking! Can't believe it!
Thank you rcey for the advice on his brother and hopefully he will go up soon to stay with him. Thankfully they are talking a lot on MSN so that is helping.
Hope it goes well Lori and remember we know how you feel! 
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rcey
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Reged: 28/05/2008
Posts: 578
Loc: Surrey
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Hi Lori62 and Sue63
Isn't it wonderful to know that we are not alone? You are welcome to PM me at anytime - a problem shared is a problem halved.
Good Luck to you both and to your families.
rcey.
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