jessica
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Has anyone any experience of childhood anxiety moving into adulthood?
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cupcake
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what do you mean Jessica?
I'm still frightened of the dark...ghosts and suchlike in particular. I mean it seriously. I would be truly scared if left alone and cope because I always have the old man with me.
What are you thinking of really?
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PLASMO
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Jessica,
I have never liked thunder and lightning, it stems from my childhook whilst living in Singapore where they have terrible electric storms. My mother used to take us all to hide in a cupboard, until the storm passed over.
Even to this day, if I am in the house alone and there is a storm with lightning, I still feel the same fear as I did when a child. (I dont hide in the cupboard though)
Plasmo x
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jessica
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Hi cupcake, no mainly things such as
Lack of being able to show emotion because of rejection, Constant worrying, Anxious what people think of you.
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blossom97
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I am not an expert but I would think that these kind of things, if left unchecked, could move into adulthood with a child.There are alsorts of therapies available for children nowadays, but i suppose it is getting the right kind of help
to nip things in the bud so to speak.
Good luck.!
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lily50
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My daughter when she was young, i mean four or five, had many anxieties, she needed her buttons done up really tight on her cuffs, her shoes really tight, she worried all the time as she went to school about friends not speaking to her she used to have night terrors, not nightmares, she didnīt wake up when someone tried to comfort her, and she went on to have those and other anxieties into adulthood, obsessive compulsive disorders and similar things, depression etc. I wish we had addressed these things when she was young and had professional help as once she had the help in adulthood she has been much, much better. She is 32, healthy and has two beautiful children, the only time she gets anxious now is when she gets really stressed but recognises it for what it is and has ways of dealing with it. Seek help!
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jessica
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Thanks lily, This is just the thing I was thinking about. After all the rows and door slamming this has all come to light with my daughter.
She is finding it very difficult to trust anyone therefore finding relationships difficult and is reluctant to trust anyone. Shes just started to visit a counseller and its come to light that things have gone on that OH and I were unaware of for example when she was little someone told her to put her hand on a wire and it had 10 volts going through it on an electric fence.
Theres been lot of other things that have come out with friends children we were had no knowledge of and she's carried the anxieties all this time. Thanks for your words of encouragement, its given me hope
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lily50
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Hi Jessica, you donīt say how old your daughter is but one thing my daughter told me when things got very bad and we had family councelling, was that she needed us to just listen to her worries and not try and solve every problem, not be too judgemental or try and protect her by trying to minimising the problem. One thing is not to feel guilty for not realising or feeling that you should have allievated all her anxieties. I think that some people and children are natural worriers, they have a strong sense of right and wrong and become very anxious if they do something (even minor things) which they know would not be approved of, what they need is strategies for dealing with their anxieties. Sometimes it is only professionals that can do this, we as parents are too closely involved and have our own anxieties and expectations regarding our children. My daughter was also very strong willed and came across as confident and extrovert, which seems a bit contrary given her worrying nature but it meant that she often rebelled against the advice we gave her, then felt guilty and lost her confidence when we were right and she was wrong. You sound like loving caring parents and I am sure that always wins through.
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Tilly2
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Hi Jessica,
Your situation reminded me a bit of my own. My daughter is 19 and has just had treatment for anxiety and depression at University. Her doctor says she has something called dysthymia (not sure if that is exactly how it is spelt) but basically it is chronic depression/anxiety, but low level so may not cause a crisis. My daughter says reflecting back she has felt like this since she was about 13 but didn't realise that not everyone felt like that. I feel guilty that I didn't recognise this even though I have had depression problems of my own. She is naturally a worrier, competitive and has a slightly obsessive nature so that type of personality may well be more prone to this.
Do go with what someone else said and seek treatment. Our first visit to the local GP was not really helpful and he tended to dismiss my daughter by saying virtually 'get a life' and stop worrying. Her university doctor has been absolutely marvellous in recognising and helping her. Treatment with anti-depressants has transformed her. A sympathetic, listening GP can make all the difference. Do keep at it and try to get help.
Best of luck,
Tina
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xx_Angie_xx
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Tilly,
I am a natural worrier, competitive and have a slightly obsessive nature and your right that this type of personality may well be more prone to this as I suffer from depression. Im going to look up Dysthymia to see if it is related to what I have.
Its good to read other peoples stories to know that you are not on your own.
Thanks.
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