tusabrat
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Reged: 11/07/2008
Posts: 4
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Hi
I'd love to see regular articles dealing with mid-life crises, the havoc it wreaks, and positive outcomes.
This is a very pertinent subject for readers in the 40+ age range; I'll warrant most wives have suffered through infidelity, spouses suddenly being cold and unfeeling etc.
In same cases, it will also be the wife suffering MLC - suddenly feeling nothing for her husband, wanting to throw away years of marriage and be single again... wanting to feel new passion etc
I've spoken to many people since experiencing it for myself (my husband suffered MLC), and I was shocked at how prevelant it is, yet how secretive it is... like no-one wants to admit it really happens. Honestly, almost everyone I spoke to either had a husband/wife who had had an affair, or else things were so bad within the marriage that an A was on the cards.
Does anyone actually get to old age having spend 40 or 50 years 100% faithful to one another? This is a survey I'd be interested in...
Thanks
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independent
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Reged: 14/10/2007
Posts: 165
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Hi
I know a few couples who have been married for a long time but sadly not many, I've also suffered from the OH and the mid lfe crisis so I know what that feels like too. I've oten wondered what would happen to the children if women had mid life crisis as ofen as men.
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lynn123
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Reged: 29/06/2008
Posts: 84
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My husband had a MLC and left - it's left devastation -it's almost as if he's had an breakdown as I have no idea who he is now.
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susang
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Reged: 10/08/2006
Posts: 550
Loc: Milton Keynes, Bucks
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I think that all of us go through the feelings of reaching a certain age and suddenly realising that our younger life has now gone and we are moving on to a different time warp.
We look in the mirror and and dont always like what we see
Are we still attractive to the opposite sex?
Would we take up the offer of an affair if we met someone?
Are we bored with our partner?
Has our sex life gone stale?
How exciting would it be to see another person without your partner knowing?
Its last chance parade, and its frightening.
We either get over it and make the most of what we have, or join the other side that goes out there and lives the dream.
Which unfortunatly means the devastation of the marriage.
If you do regret what you have done and try to make your marriage work its never the same.
The trust has gone and can never be replaced.
Its a no win situation.
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