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24/12/2008 09:17

Article on Asperger husbands

If you are interested I am a school teacher and have noticed a large increase in Asperger's syndrome amongst children which has in turn led to a large no of parents recognising the trait in their spouses or themselves.
I am married to a guy with Asperger's and I think people should be aware of this condition for lots of reasons one of which I believe it is going to be one we will all get to know a lot more of in the next 5 years. Also, with people remarrying more these days, they could well come across these people and need to know what they are letting themselves in for.

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24/12/2008 13:22

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I am interested Jules ....also a school teacher ...well Headteacher ...now retired! I am not concerned for myself but i have a neice whose husband exhibits many of the traits of Asbergers and also a friend who has a new partner whom i think may suffer fron Asbergers ....i kow a little but not much ....feel free to tell me your story and the things to look for and be aware of
Xx

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24/12/2008 16:38

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Jules- I am also a teacher- headteacher of a Nursery School actually- and with working with many children on the autistic spectrum over the years I came to realise that my now ex-husband probably has Aspergers although it has never been diagnosed. I sometimes wish I had realised earlier because things might have turned out differently for us if I had.

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24/12/2008 22:18

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I have worked with many children on the "spectrum" and have identified children who need help when parents insist nothing s wrong....9 times out of 10 one of the parents, usually the father, display similar traits... Would be interested in others thoughts etc on this
Cat

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27/12/2008 13:29

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My Oh doesn't have this condition but my uncle, my mums brother,does have it.
He has never been considered normal and has had problems in forming what one would consider normal friendships all his life. He has odd behaviour traits, like that of Autism , where the person or child likes to have things in a routine and sticks to them and hates any diversion.
My uncle also has fixations on often simple objects or ideas. Finally and sadly only just this year and with him in his 50s he has been diagnosed as suffering with Asperger's syndrome. Thankfully now he is getting one to one counselling which is helping him greatly.
My cousin has autism and is in an adult care home because it is so server and she needs medication to keep her calm.
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dbverycherry

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28/12/2008 21:04

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I have a grandson who has Aspergers. When he was a toddler he was very difficult, he did not cry much but would scream and scream and the only thing that would calm him was to put him in his cot and leave him alone in his bedroom. He also had many 'rituals'. But now he is at mainstream school and has developed into a very bright and happy boy. He has very good exam marks and has developed a few friendships - which at one time seemed impossible as he didn't understand why people had friends. He still has problems with strangers and new situations. If he sees children from his school when we are out shopping he doesn't speak to them, even when prompted, although he will point them out to me. He has also developed a sense of humour and his terrible violent outbursts are now VERY rare. Some of the traits are evident in one of his parents - guess which one!

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02/02/2009 20:51

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Am browsing and found your posting from last year. My son is 8. He has autism but actually, I think of it as Aspergers. He attends mainstream school (with lots of help - his concentration is dreadful unless it's on his chosen subject!) and he appears "normal" unless he is trying to interact in a social sense. My ex-husband behaved very badly toward me when my son was first diagnosed (age 4). It has taken 4 years for him to see that there IS a problem and it's not ME being a bad mother! My husband, in my opinion (having read so much and observed Aspies at first hand) has many of the same qualities as his son. I think it's the social isolation that's awful for these children and carers. He is in his own little world much of the time and cannot access "friends", or only marginally and for short periods of time. I wish I could do it for him but I can't.

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02/02/2009 22:10

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Hello, this is my first night on the forum. Any help and advice re Aspergers is much appreciated.

My son is 24 and has been having dialysis since he was 17. I have been telling the the doctors for years that there was something else wrong with him. He has just been diagnosed with Aspergers. His social life is very limited, with his peer group not being interested in him. I have lost count of the number of times he has tried to arrange a social activity only for the other person not to turn up.

My son has been poorly since birth and I must admit I do feel the stress at times. A friendly chat form anyone would be lovely.
Linda

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02/02/2009 23:35

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Hi Linda and welcome to these fun, friendly and often helpful and caring various forums of W&H's.
Are you still about this late at night on here?

I am sorry to hear of your sons difficulties.
OH and I have two kids. Daughter 19 and our son, turned 22 on Saturday last. Both are away form home studying at university.

I do thank God that apart from the odd late teenage mood swings both our daughter and son are what I consider just a normal. Son is like his dad who's happy in his own company 50% of the time.

If you haven't done so already Googled this condition on the internet and found some helpful advice and help groups for my uncle. I printed off one article which he said really helped him to understand and cope with his condition which sadly went undiagnosed for over 50 years.

I am sorry I can not help you more but I do hope others from here will contact you who can.

Feel free to chat to me on here or via PM(Private Message) if you feel I can help you in any way or you just want to chat

Sincere best wishes from me Debbie 43 - in snowy Kent.
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