| saraw |
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| 03/10/2008 09:28 |
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Why do I feel so miserable, is it because I am fed up, depressed, or trying to get my levels right after having my thyroid taken out. We are in the process of moving back to UK and living near our family - I should be happy? My family are well, nothing horrible so I should be grateful that they are well. We have tried France and now realise that we cannot afford to live here, we need to work in the UK so we are letting our property out and moving back. I miss my girls and funnily enough after not working properly for 2 years miss it as well - to young to retire!!! Sorry for moaning but I need to get things of my chest.
Sara
| Linby |
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| 03/10/2008 10:24 |
Re: depression
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Sara Sorry you are feeling depressed. I do know how you feel. So much is going on in your life it's coming to terms with it. Don't knock yourself down too much, moving house is one of the most stressful thing's you can do but must be even more stressful when you are aso moving countries. When I resigned from work through ill health I also came depressed felt so redundant and I grieved for my job. It is so understandable how you feel. Your family sounds as if they are doing well, and think of all the gatherings you are about to look forward to. Hope you feel better soon feel free to PM me at any time if it's only to off load I am here to listen xx
| cookiedoughforever |
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| 03/10/2008 10:25 |
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Hi Saraw
It sounds like you have had a lot of changes. Retiring, emigrating, an operation and money not stretching as far as you hoped...No wonder you feel a bit down!
At least you tried France - how I envy you plunging in and trying something like that! I am too much of a coward! It sounds like you have made your plans and will be looking forward to being near your loved ones again. Would you like to visit them more in between whiles? It sounds like you have plans to gain more money when you return to the UK so maybe you could treat yourself now to whatever you fancy in a frivolous way. What do you like doing?
I also have thyroid problems and still have blood tests every few months and understand how tiring and tiresome it can be. Especially with the cold mornings now.
Hugs
CDF
| Mollymandy |
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| 03/10/2008 10:28 |
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Think you are just fed up and a bit overwhelmed with all the changes you are about to go through. Try one of the herbal remedies which always work for me in the short term. St Johns Wort, Rescue Remedy, Bach flower remedy Oak or Elm is excellent. Quiet Life or Kalms: all over the counter although not sure whether available in la belle France! Hang in there. After a spell on anti depressants for post natal depression years ago, (and working for a big pharmaceutical company), am very pro natural remedies as the first course of action.
Think that after having your thyroid out, you do need to stabilise your system too. Good luck and you are not moaning"!
| Quicksilver |
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| 03/10/2008 11:31 |
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Hi,
Hope you are feeling better. Similar circumstances have led me to have to stay at home for 6 months and your are right, it is hard. I have tried to accommodate my feelings and have a little mantra I remind myself of. " This is your reality. You are here because you have made choices int he past that have brought you here. You can't chang e the now or how you feel but you can forget the illusions of how you think or hope things should have been and focus on the immediate - this will then become your reality - so how do you wnat to feel in 15 mins an hour or a days time?" This may then stimulate me to do things like colour my roots! cook a cake, go for a swim, dog for a walk, write someone a nice note and walk to the post office to post it (1/2hr). Sometimes it is ok to stop but good to plan the ne minutes hours days and change your reality that way. Re thyroid my Mum had hers iodized out years ago, she is now 78 looks after my disbled Parkinson Dad drives a car very well, goes rambling when she can and is likened by my friends to the duracell bunny!. It does take the mind to get you going or not.. I have hypothyroidism and find that if I am interested or needed to do things I am better than when left to my own devices.
| saraw |
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| 03/10/2008 12:34 |
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Hi thank you all for your kind thoughts, I suppose I am hard on myself at times, I feel like the whole world is against my OH and I. I am trying to be positive, but when we have a high things happen to make us low again. One bit of good news we have secured a rental about 3 miles from our ED. She is visiting it to check dimensions so we can decide which items to take with us. One reason I may be fed up I applied for a job in Uk one that I was qualified to do, and did not even get an interview. Now we have to sort some form of work, willing to take anything to tie us over xmas. At least we can spend time with the family and hopefully get our lives on track. thank you all love Sara xxxx
| Alakazsam |
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| 03/10/2008 12:44 |
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Have you thought about working in some kind of ladies only environment? I worked as a nail technician for the last 5 years before I moved to France and it was the best fun I have ever had. over Xmas they are always busy and made need extra staff. It might not be for you but dont rule something like out until you have tried it because it is like one huge coffee morning with lots of laughter and stories and its like being on this forum, you can open your hearts and minds to women and it is very empowering and may be just the boost you need!
hope you feel better soon
Kaz
ps - France has thrown us some huge curve balls here and we have not been blessed with good luck and having my parents only an hour away has proved more disasterous than helpful and finding work here is very difficult and my OH has had to travel back to the UK numerous times to find work to support our life here so dont be so hard on yourself. I am sure the thyroid problem is the cause of alot of your low feelings and so at least you know the reasons for feeling low, it would be worse if you didnt have any basis for being stressed and depressed and still felt bad.
| saraw |
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| 04/10/2008 10:27 |
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thank you Alakazsam, funny you should mention about being a nail technician that's what my ED does for a living. I cannot afford to go to college full time but will look into some courses when we go back to Cornwall. I think I need some serious girly time, I always end up going for a drink with my daughters and their friends, do they mind, no never, always ask me to join them!
We visited an agency yesterday and hopefully they have someone in mind to rent our house in France. We have booked our tickets and travel back on 3rd Nov. At least going back now, we have a chance of getting jobs, intime for xmas. Cheers love Sara xxxxxx
| Tilly2 |
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| 05/10/2008 19:45 |
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Read your post with much sympathy. Have recently moved from one area to another in the UK, sort of 'Hobsons choice' as my husband had to get another job because a 100 mile round trip to work each day was killing him. To cut a long story short, please do think about going to the docs and getting anti-depressants. I do appreciate other views about herbal and I have tried St. John's Wort before to good effect but this time I was so down and depressed that I went on tablets from my doc (female) who was wonderful. They have transformed me, honestly. I now just feel normal instead of miserable. They have got me over the hurdle of the move until things settled down which I am sure they will eventually for you. It's just hard to go through the upheaval bit and you need some help. I was embarassed at saying I was depressed, very silly now I realise, but when you're in that state, you can't help yourself.
Things will get better for you eventually, hang on in there and ask for help.
Good luck!