| beckybrox |
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Today nest looks like it has all been stirred up with big stick, stuff every where,nest emptying tomorrow at noon!
| jac4man |
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| 19/09/2008 12:46 |
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My son goes off to Uni next weekend, not sure how everything is going to fit in the car! The "must remember to pack" list seems never ending. I think the realisation of living away from his "home comforts" is now starting to dawn. I am trying to be really positive for his sake, but know I will probably fall apart on the way home!
Good luck for tomorrow and let us know how it goes, will be thinking of you.
| ejane |
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| 19/09/2008 14:02 |
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Nest undergoing redistribution of resources!
Son left 3 years ago and D moved into his larger room. He's now graduated and come home - D now going to Uni next week. Both rooms look like hell on earth!
When D goes he is moving back into her room - his old room! He got a 1st in Psychology - clever boy and now wants to study medicine so he will be here for the rest of the year as he applies for Medical School....Presumably, he will then be off again...
Oh my days - if I'd realised how 'un- empty' our nest would be when son 1st left I don't think I would have felt quite so bereft...
Thinking of you other mums as you make the transition too...
Lots of love
ejanexx
| marymary |
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I'm thinking of you all, too. My little nest started emptying 2 years ago and it seemed so painful at the time, but life has gone on and we have got used to the changes. ED is going back for her final year tomorrow. It's been lovely having her home for the summer but I'll also appreciate the space and tidiness (!) of term time.
A big hug to any of you who needs one.
| Peregrine |
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My nearly empty nest starts Sunday. Took D shopping today for previsions, she kept saying "how much"??? She has no idea how much things cost. I think she will be living on pasta for 3 years, she bought a humugous bag!!! Stuff she is taking is spilling out of her bedroom and slowly creeping downstairs. I've got to write down what colours go together when putting a load in the washing machine. I will miss her dreadfully.
perry
| Foxie |
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| 19/09/2008 18:59 |
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Hi Perry
Don't worry about a colour list for the washing machine - just give your daughter a packet of colour catchers. She can just bung everything in together then.
Foxie x
| Peregrine |
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| 19/09/2008 19:36 |
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Thanks for the tip Foxie. Do they really work???? She would lamp me one if she got a mucky looking pink top that was previously white
perry
| dbverycherry |
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| 19/09/2008 21:13 |
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Got two & gained two !My nest box is fit to burst and with rather big chicks here tonight.
21 year old son has his old school mate over and who stayed for the evening meal and both are now watching a movie with my OH.
Daughter and her boyfriend came home about half an hour ago wanting to be fed!
Soon our 19 year old daughter will be off to Nottingham Fashion University, taking her and all her stuff up on the 3rd October.
Son is going back to Norwich, studying at the University of Arts, this Sunday to hopefully sign up for a nest there for himself during the week.
What will I do with all the space and spare time when they finally fly the nest?!
I have plans which involve a luxury holiday brochureand bottle of cherry b
Seeing as there won't be much need for Mrs DBV the taxi driver or cook and maid 
...dbverycherry
| Chickadee |
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| 19/09/2008 21:35 |
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It is hard isn't it - reminds me of my two sons leaving - 6 and 8 years ago now! You do feel forlorn when you drive off leaving them alone for the first time - but they quickly settle down and you get used to their absence even though you miss them like mad. And you can all congratulate yourselves on a job well done - you have brought them up, made sure they got an education which has enabled them to get a place at university - such an achievement! And you have the strength to let them go - probably the hardest thing we have to do as parents, but also the most important.
So best wishes to all your fledglings as they fly the nest and to you as you tidy up after them!
DBVC the holiday brochure and cherry brandy sound like a good idea!!!
| Foxie |
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| 19/09/2008 21:42 |
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Hi Perry
Yep they work, only thing to remember is to use each one only once!
Foxie x.
| amelica2 |
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| 20/09/2008 07:50 |
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see Sallykins post of today (Well, this is it) under Your Lives for more on empty nesters!!
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| issi |
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| 20/09/2008 09:50 |
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Have a laugh when you drive up the motorway. I remember OH and I driving our daughter to uni, car packed to the roof, and we passed car after car with some spotty teenager and their parents, goods packed to the roof, and the most common sight was the large pack of toilet rolls sticking up on the back seat!
| Linby |
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| 20/09/2008 09:52 |
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I only have one D she left home to live with her partner 7 years ago. I remember thinking before she left what colour I was to decorate her room. I just did not realise how I would feel, but when I went into the empty room an overwelming feeling that come over me was horrid, I cried and cried and cried,But when we see each other now we have special times together and talk more.xx
| Sue63 |
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| 20/09/2008 19:39 |
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Just left my eldest son at university and didn't realise how hard it would be coming home,the house seems so different and quiet. Also my youngest son is upset as he was so close to his brother. Made me feel guilty for not having any more children to keep him company! The emptiness feels overwhelming at the moment.
Please reassure me this is normal and we will adjust?
I am trying to be positive, just feels so hard today. Thanks x
| issi |
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| 21/09/2008 00:24 |
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Sue63, your feelings are absolutely normal and they will pass - honestly. Your youngest son will adjust too and he will benefit from having a brother who paves the way for him in the future.
| Friendlyfifer |
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Well my son has just joined the Police and has gone off to Police college for 14 weeks, only coming home at the weekend (with a huge pile of washing I might add!). I'm actually quite enjoying the peace and quiet and ownership of the tv remote! I've never lived on my own before, but I'm starting to think I might like it. Time will tell!
| rcey |
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| 22/09/2008 15:05 |
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Took mine back yesterday to Leicester - dead give away was all cars piled high with the duvet thrown in at the last minute - too funny to see!
Sue 63 - I posted elsewhere about the siblings - I totally under estimated the effect that it would have on YD ( I only have the 2 girls) and she had a mini meltdown after about 3 months. At first she was all jokes about taking over her sisters life, rooms, clothes, but then it really hit home. I wish someone had warned me as I didn't look for any signs and just presumed that she was happy with her new status as an only child in the house. It didn't help that my hubs travels a lot and she was now completely under the microscope. It does get better but don't under estimate it and you will all be fine. Can your youngest go and visit his brother? I am sending my YD to her sister for a few days - I think it will be good for them and also for YD to see what a Uni town is like. Good luck and cyber hugs for you xx
| lori62 |
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| 22/09/2008 19:08 |
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only just joined the site and went straight to this forum. eldest son off on saturday to exeter. just reading all your posts made me cry - am dreading it and know i will probably be in tears for days.
nice to know so many others are going through the same thing
definately will use this as support over the next few weeks
watch this space!
| Sue63 |
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| 22/09/2008 21:17 |
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I joined this forum to get some reassurance and support when my eldest son started uni last Saturday. Everyone was so reassuring and it was great to know my feelings were normal! I am feeling a little better now as my son has texted me and written me a very long blog about the fun he is having. He is even enjoying cooking! Can't believe it!
Thank you rcey for the advice on his brother and hopefully he will go up soon to stay with him. Thankfully they are talking a lot on MSN so that is helping.
Hope it goes well Lori and remember we know how you feel!
| rcey |
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| 23/09/2008 08:24 |
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Hi Lori62 and Sue63
Isn't it wonderful to know that we are not alone? You are welcome to PM me at anytime - a problem shared is a problem halved.
Good Luck to you both and to your families.
rcey.
| gre1958 |
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| 23/09/2008 08:58 |
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Hi hope your son got away ok with the car over loaded like thousands of others thumping up and down motorways ! done it twice and you will be fine know don't believe it now !!! its b hard to let go but they come back full of life and interesting tales (some I can tell you now you would rather not hear !) but all in all think its just as hard for them as you to start with but they all seem stronger and happy & confident adults by the time the leave uni and go into real world - and think of the clean bedrooms and tidy loos !!! chin up all you first time empty nesters it really does get better with time and you must have all done good jobs making your offspring confident young folk to make that huge leap into uni life . Be happy for them and enjoy some "you" time !! lots love to you all XXXXX
| beckybrox |
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| 23/09/2008 11:49 |
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I started this thread last week so just up-dating.So far, so good. Would just like to say how pleased Iam that forums like this exist, Ionly joined recently but have had so much support from everyone and would like to say a big 'THANK-YOU '
| jac4man |
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| 23/09/2008 12:19 |
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Hi Lori 62
I too am new to this site. What a coincidence though reading your post as my son is off to Exeter this Saturday as well. His accommodation is in James Owen Court near to the city centre so we have booked into a nearby hotel. Am sure like you I will be in floods of tears back up the M5/M4. My son is going to study geography - what is yours going to do?
Please send me a personal message if you would like to chat further. It is very reassuring that I am not the only one going through the emotional washing machine!
Jackie
| dbverycherry |
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| 23/09/2008 16:04 |
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It is at times like this that one often sees the reward for all the effort and love you have given and put in over the years in bringing them up.My son has asked me to show him how to wash his clothes, how to iron properly and how to cook many things since going off to uni. The last one he asked me for was how to make a basic white sauce as he said he missed it and has always liked it and found the packet mixes tasteless and not a patch to mine
| rcey |
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| 23/09/2008 18:27 |
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Ok, so can anyone else out do me on a 20 minute discussion on ruflette curtains long distance and how to draw up the thread to make the pleats without letting some of the thread go; count the number of hooks that you have to make the correspond to .... actually after 20 minutes I've lost the will to live for digs curtains !! Pour me a glass of wine and let me savour my freedom - love her that I do !!
| issi |
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| 24/09/2008 12:17 |
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As a 'been there, done that' mum may I please say that you will find the university years will fly by. It does not seem so at the time but when my daughter graduated (didn't see much of the ceremony through misty eyes) I couldn't believe how quickly it had all gone. x
| dbverycherry |
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| 24/09/2008 13:20 |
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Hi there folks, rcey and Issi.
Know what thats like taking up curtains. Have just done my uncles two pairs and sewn all by hand. Did it the easy way by just pinning then turning them up
I slogged my guts out helping son clean his house/halls at the end of term and this summer.
He was the last to leave there and it was in the terms that house's shared areas were left in a good state to enable all the house mates to get their £140 deposit back.
One chap must have just looked at the cleaning stuff as his work was next to nothing and his mess
was found all around the bathroom and in the kitchen and crawling out of the fridge!Everyone of the 5 other house mates,as far as I know, got their deposit money back.
Did we get any thanks for our hard work from these house mates? NO!
Will I do it again? NO
Son impressed me on how well he could clean and set to so OH and I said he could keep the £140 we paid.
I do agree Issi the time sure has flown flown by so far for me to.
Now our daughter is soon to start at Nottingham Trent Uni and we are taking her and all her stuff up there on the 3rd of October all being well.
Best wishes to all parents who find themselves in the same boat this year.
Try and sit back and enjoy some of the ride ~ ~ ~
dbverycherry
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My daughter moved out earlier thisear into her own flat. She hadstayed with longer than I expected, but wanted to save a deposit to by a place.
At first I missed her dreadfully. Even getting the bathroom back, and a whole new wardrobe didn'tmake up for it.
Now - I love it. OH and I have time to ourelves. Food shopping is easier. We can watch what we want on TV.
But most of all, it's quality time. When she comes round, I cook special food that she loves, but won't cook for herself. We meet in town and go shopping together. Sheh phones me up for a chat, rather than just being ubder each oethers feet. And I don't have to nag about shoes all over the place, or ironing, or the bathroom.
It's not soo much losing an a daughter I love but who can wind me up, but gaining a daughter and best friend
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| 24/09/2008 18:44 |
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Just to say I do agree with you issi, the uni time goes by so quickly. I had a little tear in my eye too at graduation. So wonderful to see so many young people all celebrating their degrees and also the start of the adult lives.
| dbverycherry |
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but not just yet
Hi and good morning there to my fellow empty nesters and those soon to be.
Update on my nest here.
OH and I are not truely empty nesters yet this year.
One's daughter is still ever increasing her pile of stuff to take!
OH took our son and two car loads of stuff up to his new house share on Saturday.
I got a call from our son yesterday to say he is settling just fine and to say a BIG thank you to his dad for his help and to me for the apple crumble I made and packed for him and that he was then enjoying
Once a mum always a mum I say
| hatty |
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| 29/09/2008 10:08 |
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Hi everyone
Today is strange day as took son to Southampton Uni on sunday. I feel very lost and the house is empty. Think I will cry on and off all day.
I have decided to use his bedroom as my study. I will use his desk and feel close somehow!!!
Its good to hear we all feel the same. My daughter will feel it too as they are very close.
Oh well better get on
have lots of chocolate in the cupboard
keep smiling
Hatty
| jac4man |
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| 29/09/2008 12:35 |
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Hi Hatty
Took my son to Exeter this weekend. Came home last night but the house seems strangely quiet without him. Seems funny just cooking for 3 rather than for 4. Think my daughter will miss him too (although she says she won't). He has been on MSN and tells me he is OK and doing lot of things with his new flat mates. Think I need to take a leaf out of his book and try to keep busy! Lets hope the terms flies past and we can look forward to them coming home soon.
I too am in Cambridgeshire so if you would like to meet up sometime then please PM me.
| Sallykins |
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| 29/09/2008 18:56 |
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Well my S has been at Aberystwyth for just over a week now and I have to admit he is having an absolutely fabulous time and doesn't seem to be missing us too much at the moment. I agree it's odd just cooking and shopping for me, OH and D but my food bill has reduced dramatically and the place is so much tidier...
He has really landed on his feet with his flatmates as they are all cooking and socialising together. Last night when I phoned he and the other 3 boys were cooking sausages wrapped in bacon with broccoli, mash and onion gravy....and I thought he'd starve without Mum's home cooking...
Don't get me wrong...I miss him like crazy but I am beginning to enjoy the calmness here at home and it's even better knowing he is so happy and enjoying himself
| Sue63 |
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| 29/09/2008 19:23 |
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Hi Hatty
I know exactly how you feel as I took my son a week ago to uni and the house was so quiet and I felt lost too. As the week has gone on though I feel I am slowly adjusting as is my youger son, who seems to be gradually moving in to his brother's room! it's a big change and time to be kind to ourselves. I have kept really busy and also have chocolate in my cupboard!
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so glad to know I'm not the only one feeling like this. Only just starting using this site but after dropping daughter at Bristol Uni on Sunday really needed a shoulder...and have found lots of sympathy here thank you. Its very hard moving to a new area as I don't have my friends around me either.
At least she's not too far away, but I don't want to cling! I have spoken to her today nad it sounds like one long party so far and she seems to be loving it so I mustn't be too sad.
Maybe we all need a 'virtual' coffee together!
| rcey |
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| 01/10/2008 18:50 |
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UKANEGL - virtual coffee? You will quickly realise that with these lovely ladies, 6pm means virtual wine bar open - what can I get for you?
Her first 2 weeks will be very long parties and then she will get the freshers flu and then she will settle down!
Just ride with the tide as hard as it is I know, but it will work out and she will find a wonderful new bunch of friends and come home appreciating you like she's never done before - its such an exciting time for young people.
Keep on popping in here to draw strength from those who have walked this road - that's what we are here for (apart from the virtual wine bar that is !)
| jac4man |
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Hi there
Sorry Swindon is not nearer or else would love to meet up and have a coffee and a chat. I'm sure your daughter will be having an absolute ball this first few weeks, I know my son has been out doing things most days and evenings - not sure how long the funds are going to last though! At least Bristol is not too far away so she will be able to come home when she feels the need (in a couple of weeks I should think). Keep your chin up and try not to get too down. We do have to let them find their own way in life at some stage and university is an ideal platform with lots of them all being in the same boat and hopefully supporting each other. This forum is great because you can see that you are not alone in your feelings and we can chat about them and get emotional support from each other.
| UKANGEL |
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lol about the wine....make mine a large Shiraz then please!
Spoke to Becky yesterday and it's definately been one long round of parties and meeting new people! She sounded exhausted! Hard to beleive this is the same girl who at 14 stopped attending school, took several overdoses and we thought would never get back on track....way to go Becky!
Sorry for all the info, it's why we're so close now though, but I do still worry about her being away.
Deep breath and I'll just take a glug of that wine now.....cheers!
| sharond |
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I have just been reading through the forums about "empy-nesters" as i was in need of some support. My son has gone off to the university of Birmingham for the first time last week. I have been feeling terrible, almost like i have been bereaved!!! I have been doing some research to see if this is normal or me being daft! but reading your posts has confirmed to me that i am not the only one feeling like this.
This is the first time i have written on the forum and i would like to say a HUGE THANK YOU for making me feel "normal" and not so lonely. xxxx
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| 03/10/2008 18:10 |
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Hi
I have just managed to sign up to the forum and this is my first ever posting. It took me two weeks to register but thanks to Lyndsay at W&H (who was a star) I managed to log on to-day. It was so nice to know others have the empty nest syndrome. Our only son has just gone off to York St John Uni. I was so upset when we got home and saw his things in his room. I really did feel bereaved. Believe it or not he is only 45 minutes away but that does not make it easier. I had to have a day off sick on the Monday the first one in 3 years I felt so awful !! Thank goodness for mobiles, He is having an absolute ball, no sign of any work yet, just party after party and as he puts it 'awesome housemates'.
He is coming home for the weekend tonight I am lucky he is close. I know he only wants his washing done but I don't care. I have baked a massive chocolate cake as It is my day off today and am cooking a special meal.
I would love to hear form anyone who wants a chat. Sharon I would have replied to you in person as you sound as if you are going through the same as me but have not worked out how to do that yet.
My main reason for joining is to try and join or set up a lunch or supper club in the Scarborough, North Yorks area any advice would be very welcome.
Bye for now Lizx
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| 03/10/2008 19:13 |
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Hi guys...first of all Liz...welcome to the forum you will soon find it is soo addictive. I spent many years in Scarborough...I went to St Giles Primary School...don't know if it still exists and I lived in Seaview Drive jusr off the Filey Rd....Good memories!!!
Anyway I live down in Kent and my son was deposited at Aberystwyth Uni (300 odd miles away) almost 2 weeks ago. He is having a fabulous time. It's too far for him to come home during term time so I won't see him 'till Dec 13th when term ends. I miss him dreadfully but I am so happy he is well and truly settled and when he calls he is so full of life and enthusiasm for what is happening.
On a lighter note.... he phoned last night and said..." Mum you know all that shopping you did before you went home...well it's all run out....." My reply was..." You know that big building at the bottom of the hill...the one called Morrisons? get your arse down there and buy some more food!!!!" He replied that he would have fish n chips tonight and think about shopping tomorrow...
It's very hard to let go and if he was nearer I imagine I would probably be doing his washing and ironing and his food shopping...but to be honest I am glad things are as they are...he needs to learn and slowly but surely he's getting there......
I think it's wonderful that ther are so many of us on the forum who are going thru similar experiences and can support each other....
Right...back to my glass of wine!!!
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| 03/10/2008 19:50 |
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Hi empty nesters
Our 3 daughters are now grown up and graduated and all are living away from home. But well I remember the early days. My own mother found it very difficult to let go of me and I was determined to allow my daughters to fly off to university without tears or regret. I hadn't banked on my poor OH. When our first child went off to Manchester he was bereft. He found that he had to close her bedroom door so as not to remind himself that she had left home. It didn't get better with daughters 2 and 3, in some ways worse as he realised that the wonderful days we had spent as a family unit were now gone.
But the support we gave them as children and teenagers has now paid off. Although all of them are now with partners (I need a wedding!) our girls are still close and we see lots of them even though they live relatively far away.
There are good moments. No more do you have to stay up and panic, waiting for your child to arrive safely through the door in the wee small hours of the morning. That is done outside your jurisdiction at Uni. And the joy you both feel on their return home for a weekend or holiday reminds you both that you quite like one anothers company.
Our house, small when the girls were living here, is now huge. But time moves on and I am delighted that they have all turned into independent girls who still enjoy our company, though we are second to friends.
Meanwhile, I look forward to the grandchildren....
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Hi Sally
Thanks for the welcome. It is so nice to read all the other messages and to know we are all just normal mums missing our sons and daughters. I will keep reading as the support is lovely.
Liz
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I cried myself to sleep two nights running when my youngest started at Leeds two weeks ago. She seems to be doing ok and I feel a lot better now-just don't want the experience to change her, I suppose. Eldest is now back after his four years away, but is going to New Zealand for 6 months in November. Middle one at Huddersfield in finl year-where do all those years go?
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| 04/10/2008 13:53 |
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Its tough!
We relocated 2 months ago, I started a new job, and my youngest left for Uni in Leicester last week. Eldest is already at Manchester Uni.
I glance in the empty bedroom, but haven't moved anything or changed anything. I think I still feel like he's gone to stay with a friend, it hasn't sunk in that he won't be back till Christmas.
I'm really proud of them, but I miss them so much. Hubby is working away in a few weeks, so not looking forward to an empty house. Girly movies and wine I think!
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| 04/10/2008 17:06 |
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Hi Liz
This is my first time on the forum too, so im not sure how things work yet!! Thank you so much for your reply, it is so nice to know others feel the same as me. My son is coming home next weekend so he has told me, i am looking forward to it so much (even though he has said he is coming home to go to a friends birthday party!). I must admit i am feeling slightly better now,even though the house still feels empty without him.
sharon x
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| 04/10/2008 18:12 |
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Hi everyone
Took YS to Solent Uni in Southampton two weeks ago today. We then went away for a week so still getting used to the quiet. We are going to see him next Saturday and I cannot wait. Have had the odd call re cooking but he seems to have settled really well and is loving it! That helps us doesn't it - knowing that they are happy and enjoying their new friends and the course and new surroundings! Lets all keep in touch to see how we are all doing (and our kids of course!!!)
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| 04/10/2008 18:29 |
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Got another call from S last night...he's going to a school boys and girls party tonight where they all have to dress in some sort of school uniform...guess who the 'act' is??? It's the kids show puppets Bodger and Badger...the original!!! I remember watching this with my kids years ago and I remember it always ended up in a mashed potatoe throwing contest...so I have warned S that he will probably end up covered in the stuff..
It brought back memories of when I was at Uni. The fav kids programme then was Tiswas with Chris Tarrant, Lenny Henry and Sally someone. When they came to Loughborough Uni when I was ther we had a fab time. It involved a load of us in a cage being soaked with all manner of gunge and other unpleasant smelling stuff!!!
I do envy our kids....wonderful times!!!!
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| 04/10/2008 20:48 |
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Welcome to all the new forumers!
I am out the other side of uni now and I cannot believe how quickly the time goes by. Before you know it you will be watching them graduate with a little tear of pride in your eye!
| emptynest |
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| 04/10/2008 22:29 |
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Hi LizNY
Welcome to the forum. My son has gone to uni and returned and now has just left for good. It's not easy. You are right in that it is like a bereavement but it does get easier.
I have joined a walking and supper club in my area and I would definitely recommend them. Have a good look on the forum to see if there is a club in your area but if not just put up a posting yourself. You do have to persevere - it took me a few months before things got off the ground. Good luck and please feel free to PM me. Click on Send Message at the top of the page to send a PM.
| beckybrox |
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| 04/10/2008 22:39 |
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Little chick came home this weekend,made her favourite food, roast chicken and veggies. Went back to uni today with bag of clean washing. Also tapped me for £50.00 for books ! It was all great. Feeling much better now .
| LizNY |
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| 05/10/2008 20:09 |
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Hi everyone
Large glass of wine please and a little TLC !!!
Just put my son on the train after he came home for the weekend.
It was so nice to have wet towels all over the bathroom floor, toilet seat up and trainers in the middle of the hall once again. Now everything is tidy and quiet. Shed a few tears once again when I dropped him off. We had alovely Sunday Lunch out together as hubby away for the day. Ate far too much but enjoyed the time.
No idea of date of next visit home which made my heart drop but promised to text. I hope all the washing ,and chocolate cake did the trick. Hubby says I am trying to hard as son loves us anyway!!
Love to all you mums who are too far away for a visit I know how lucky I am.
Love
Liz xx
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| 05/10/2008 21:31 |
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well.
OH and I have just said goodbye to our beloved daughter and sent her back off to her boyfriend. They live in London.
We live together on the South coast and we LOVE our life together. We have talked about his 'empty nest' thing.
Yes, we agreed ...we love it.
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| 06/10/2008 21:44 |
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its good to know I'm not the only one missing my dd.....no idea when she'll be home, but guess I should just be glad she's confident enough and settling in well
good luck everyone!
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| 08/10/2008 16:16 |
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My sons School are very keen for him to go to Residential Farm College, he has learning difficulties, and i think he will love it but i shall feel so lonely. Difficult times with Husband at the moment so i guess i ought to start preparing myself mentally. He will go next year. I think i will need support so thankyou all for being there.x
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| 09/10/2008 11:50 |
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I have an empty nest now and again. It does help to chat it over and to you lot about how one is feeling and it makes you realise you are not being silly and you are not alone.
There is life after they leave home and a light somewhere and in seeing leave home.
Best wishes with your son and your lifes ahead Suejane.
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