| BumbleBee |
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| 31/08/2008 20:37 |
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whether or not we are happily married, or would marry the same man again today, did you actually enjoy your wedding day?
Regardless of dodgy outcome of my marriage (and it took a few years) i can honestly say I didn;t enjoy the day itself. I didn;t want a church wedding, but everyone else did, so I just sort of went along with it.
What was yours like?
| debenjane |
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| 31/08/2008 20:48 |
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First one was ok. Mum and Dad paid for and organised it and it went off without a hitch so it was fine.
Second one was absolutely fabulous. OH and I had exactly what we wanted - everything that was special to us. Friends, family and it was the best day I've ever had, it couldn't have gone any better. The sun shone, and oh I could go on and on but it was lovely. I always hoped we could walk up the lane from the church to the reception and we did, strolled up the lane chatting with friends and laughing. After the reception we went to a hotel and my daughters had packed us a little bag with glasses, champagne, chocolates and confetti. OH and I relived the day and drank champers til the wee small hours. Would do it all again tomorrow - if I thought the dress would still fit.! LOL.
| Bluebell35 |
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| 31/08/2008 20:51 |
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Hi Bumblebee
I am divorced but I am pleased to say I had a lovely wedding. We got married in 1996 on a VERY tight budget. I roped in all my friends who had a skill to help.
Flowers - done by a friend who did a florestry course
Dress - made by a family friend who owns a dressmaking shop
my make up - done by her daughter who is a beauty therapist
My chauffer - was my husbands long time friend
Cake - made by my gran
evening buffet - done by a friend
I /we had a lovely day. My dress was my favourite thing because it was a bit different - I got married in red.
However, if/when my oh asks me to marry him, I will do it all very different, just the two of us abroad somewhere.....
Bluebell35xx
| kate1 |
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| 31/08/2008 22:21 |
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My first wedding was the big white dream.I was 21 and had a wonderful day.Married 29 yrs until he died.
Got married again a year last April and, although very different to the first time it was just what we wanted, and perfect.
We got married at a Register Office at midday with just our children and partners.
Then lunch back at home ( c/o M&S ), then drove to Stamford where we had a dinner party, for 19, in a private room at The George.The weather was perfect and we spent the afternoon sitting in the courtyard welcoming people as they arrived and having tea and chatting.
Then we had a champagne and canapes reception in the courtyard and then dinner.
My OH's speech was amazing...I was so proud of him.
My YS made a speech too. He was very nervous, but it was funny and poignant too.He ended by saying 'Mum's got a husband, but I've got a friend.' That was so lovely that my new husband had a tear in his eye as she stood to make his speech!
Everyone stayed overnight, and we stayed two nights.
Perfect!
| eliza |
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| 01/09/2008 10:20 |
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No can't say i did.I was pregnant but didn't show however MIL to be insisted on comments like oh well i never thought he would marry but she is pregnant as though that was the only reason we were marrying we'd been together 5 years just never got round to it.I hated my dress and won't have any photos around it rained.We had a registry office wedding as it was my second but other half didn't wnat church blessing.The whole thing was arranged in 6 weeks.I didn't like the day do but did enjoy the evening do.Hev been together 16 years now.
| issi |
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| 01/09/2008 11:40 |
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Yes I was happy on the day, but no, I was not happy with the wedding itself. I would have liked a church wedding but we are different religions and at that age I did not set too much store by it so I just went for convenience. I had no idea what I was doing and arranged the whole thing myself with some help from my equally naive fiance. Unusually for then I got married near my fiance's home rather my own family home which meant I missed out on the comfort and support of my parents and sisters and that is why I feel so much of my wedding was just plain wrong. I would love to have had a big white wedding with all the trimmings and all the people I knew and loved to be there for me. Instead I had a small register office wedding with 30 guests and omitted some people simply because of the cost. I don't think they ever forgave me.
| Ashbee |
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| 01/09/2008 11:47 |
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Now I come to think about it, neither wedding day was a great day. The first was frought(?) with the usual family stresses and strains of divorced parents and partners etc. and so it wasn't the fairytale affair I hoped for - bit like the marriage really! The second came six weeks after my youngest son died. It seemed important to me not to change the date but we decided to have a very simple and private wedding rather what had been planned: no guests, just two witnesses, a simple dress and flowers that went on the grave. Never mind, the end result was the same: I'm married to a wonderful man...
| susieblue |
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| 01/09/2008 12:23 |
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Yes I enjoyed my wedding day. I have never been the centre of attraction as much before or since! The dress was just as I imagined and never thought we would find. The sun shone. It was a bit windy but that just saved us from getting overheated. We had a slight hiccup 3 days before as we had to change churches. I have to admit that if we had had the choice of venue then, that they do now, I wouldn't have had it in a church (which would have gone down like a lead balloon with my mother but c'est la vie) but that is the only difference I would make. Guess something must have been right as it is 33 years now.
| ChrissiFi |
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| 01/09/2008 13:06 |
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The church wedding was great but the reception was as chosen by the parents so, no I didn't enjoy that part of it. Couldn't wait to escape!
| Janmac |
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| 01/09/2008 14:15 |
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We had a party with a marriage service in the middle.
By the time I got married - at the advanced age of 43, both my parents had died so my family consisted of my brother, his wife and 2 children and an ancient aunt. I would have liked a church ceremony but without my dad to walk me down the aisle I would have only been reminded that he wasnt there, so registery office it was.
We got married at 10am so we booked a small local restaurant owned by friends , for a lunch for the 30 adults and 9 children guests. The owner opened up his gardens for the children to play whilst the adults chatted after the meal and the weather was magnificent. After lunch we went home where we had set up some gazebos in the garden and made the double garage into a bar area. More friends arrived and we had a buffet delivered for the evening. What we would have done if the weather hadnt been so great I dont know.
My OH and I spent out wedding night on an airbed in the sitting room , having given up our room to guests and the next night was spent at my MIL's ( we took her home to Scotland the day after the wedding) - twin beds that my OH pushed together and ....I wasnt allowed to make any 'odd' noises as his mum was next door!!!! Ha ha ha . That bit I would probably like to have changed!!
BTW - the morning after the wedding I woke up and found I had fallen sideways off the airbed onto the floor and my boob had fallen out of the armhole of my nightie. Not so bad until I realised that the patio curtains were open and my brother-in-law was sitting on the patio with his children eating breakfast! Luckily we dont see them very often...........
| issi |
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| 01/09/2008 14:28 |
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Janmac, your story is hilarious!
| Glitterqueen |
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| 01/09/2008 16:06 |
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Yes I enjoyed it but looking back I dont think I had much control over it. I just went along with everything my parents suggested the church, the reception venue, the bridesmaids, even my dress which I "chose" because it was what I thought my parents could afford. I was married only two weeks after my 19th birthday.
| MrsDing |
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| 01/09/2008 16:20 |
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Abso-bl**dy-lutley!!
I was just thinking about it on the way to work today because a) it's our third anniversary tomorrow and b) I heard a couple of songs on the radio that I associate with our wedding day.
Highlights include
Singing "Mr Blue Sky" at the top of my voice in the car as we travelled together to our venue.
Walking together through Portmeirion village in our purple outfits with the photographer shoving all the tourists out the way. I felt like the Queen
Standing outside the ceremony room waiting to go in. I just held Mr Ding's hand and thought to myself "This is it, we've finally got here"
Looking at the clock aswe got into bed and realising that it said 11:59. We watched it click over to midnight and our long-awaited wedding day was over.
It truly was a fantastic day!!
| cupcake |
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| 01/09/2008 17:24 |
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Yes I did. We married in a registry office.
I had rushed to my friends house just the day before to borrow a really pretty dress she had, white with tiny gold flecks in it, as we kind of married on the spur of the moment! ok, the banns had to go up and we had 3 weeks to prepare but I just couldn't find a dress I liked and then i remembered the one my friend had. It was all a mad rush to get the dress and then some shoes and a pretty hair slide!
But we thought it was all very romantic, we were madly in love and it was a lovely day.
| superbakerqueen |
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| 02/09/2008 08:30 |
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No I didn't!
Didn't want a church wedding...but mum said "what will the neighbours say"...so had one
Had a reception with all my famly...whom I didn't like and never see and haven't seen since!!! because it was the'proper' thing to do.
Hated my dress...can't have the pictures up
Got my hair done at hairdressers and Gran said "thought you we going to get your hair done!"
But it was 1978 and we were only 20yrs old...but we're still married and I love him to bits... so I guess the purpose of the day has worked out...but I'd love to take our vows again but just do it our way
| AnnieJo |
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| 02/09/2008 09:27 |
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Yes I did! I married for the second time two years ago and OH and I decided to do something different and go to Kenya. We just had our children with us(mine then 27 & 25, his 12) and it was one of the best days of my life. The hotel staff and the registrar were wonderful people, our bedroom door and our chairs in the restaurant were garlanded with flowers and palm tree leaves and my bouquet was made from flowers gathered in the grounds of the hotel. We took our vows to the sound of the sea in the warmth of the sun. After the ceremony we celebrated with champagne and then went snorkelling on the coral reef in the afternoon. The next day we all flew into the Masai Mara for a three day safari. I will cherish the memories of those days for the rest of my life.
AnnieJo
| sioned |
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| 02/09/2008 15:14 |
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i have been married twice, the second time was just what we wanted, and how we wanted it, we were lucky to get married in church , we had 5 bridesmaids, (6 children between us, 5 girls) we had a limo for the bridesmaids, the reception was brilliant, hot buffet with food we all liked, baked potatoes, pasta dishes, and apple pie and custard, OH favourite! and later in the evening we had a couple of hours of kareokee, a birlliant day. when i am feeling down i play it back in my mind it always makes me smile, and gives me a warm glow inside! soppy i know!!
| Sweet_Pea |
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| 04/09/2008 19:33 |
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Well, I've only had one and we're still married almost 24 yrs later but no, I didn't enjoy my wedding day. In those days it was either church or registry office - now the sky's the limit (literally) and weddings are so much more individual. Ours was very small and very cheap - I'd been engaged a couple of years earlier and called it off a couple of months before the wedding (no regrets) but was on a massive guilt trip so we paid for everything ourselves and even had the reception at home. Maybe we should renew our vows and have a big bash to make up for it!
Sweetpeasue
| shootingstar |
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| 05/09/2008 14:28 |
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I did enjoy my wedding day - inspite of many attempts by others (inlaws, mostly) to ruin it. My MIL threatened to stab my father
and.. and.. and..But we had a nice service, a good reception and a great pig roast - we had to have a pig roast because my MIL wouldn't fit on the spit
| Linby |
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| 06/09/2008 15:26 |
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My first wedding was the big white wedding on Easter Monday a first in the village church for 36 years, the day went without a hitch but because Mum and Dad paid for it they made the rules I was 20. My second marrage was fab so romantic in a registry office and we both cried saying our vows, we made all the rules this time and we had just what we wanted. The reception was in the pub that we run, so our customers enjoyed the day along with our family and friends that was 17 years ago and still so very much in love ahhhhhhhhhh xx
| kafferlilly |
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| 07/09/2008 08:46 |
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The first one a resounding NO....
I new it was a mistake then...I did try though....any way after a while I gave up....
Second one oh a resounding YES...very romantic...Gretna Green just the two of us son and daughter...and his kilt...
| Jane_2009 |
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| 07/09/2008 11:48 |
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No not really!!
My husband and I had been together for seven years before we got married. We tied the knot in a registry office with just two friends present as our witnesses. There was no big party afterwards, no stretch limousines and no family present. After the all too brief ceremony in the registry office, the four of us had lunch in a lovely restaurant, but I was 5 months pregnant and was still suffering from morning sickness so I didn’t enjoy it!! I can also remember feeling hideously unattractive in the sky blue maternity suit that I was wearing!!
We didn't tell our families or friends we’d got married until after the wedding, and to be honest I don’t think they’ve ever really forgiven us! My husband who comes from a R.C family had been married before in church, and I am not particularly religious, but that's another story.
So all in all, not a great day for me, although I am pleased to say that I we are still happily married 14 years later and are lucky enough to have two beautiful children.
| Mar5ha |
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| 07/09/2008 12:42 |
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I really DID love my day - we got married in December 1970 (lovely and sunny too) in local register office in the very same room my mum and dad had got married (and Goerge Harrison and Patti Boyd too!!) and we all crossed the road to the big pub for a curry lunch - back home for a cuppa, then had a party for all our friends in the evening.
Licence was 15/6d and our honeymoon in Devon cost £8 for the week (Oh certainly knew how to treat a girl!!!!!
)Fond memories!! - Really enjoyed it all
Marsha
| whitleybay |
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| 07/09/2008 17:23 |
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OMG Yes!
We got married in Scotland because that was where I was living at the time, we arranged it( and paid for it) I wore a typical meringue dress in ivory. I didnt think I could get away with white!It was a chuch wedding but Church of Scotland - I am Cof E and the OH is RC so we compromised - that set the cat among the pigeons with his family!
It was a November wedding so I had asked the designer to make me a really warm dress, quilted front etc. Well you've guessed it... it was the hottest November day for centuries.
I was a blushing bride thats for sure.
We had a ceidlh (is that the right spelling Chattycathy?) band and had a ball!
People wrote to us weeks later asking if we could seperate and remarry.... never did, still together 22years later