| Bluebell35 |
| (member) |
| 05/07/2008 09:25 |
It's Bad News
|
Good Morning Everyone
I did not post last night when I got back from the Isle of Wight because it was late and I had had a very long and traumatic day. So here is an update on my dad following on from my post earlier in the week.........
Dad has his tests yesterday, and unfortunatly it looks like he does indeed have bowel cancer.
They found an area of the bowel that was abnormal with what they believe to be a growth. They have taken biopsys to confirm what the consultant thinks he has found (I am clinging on to the vague hope that he is wrong). From what I understand the biopsy results will confirm if the growth is banign or malignant. But either way he will need surgery.
We wont know until the 17th July what the treatment plan will be, but depending on the results it will be surgery and kemo, or mabey just surgery.....dont know.
Dad took the news very calmly...cool as a cucumber he was. Me on the otherhand, thats a different story. I felt like someone had smashed me over the head with a brick.
Anyway, I am not going to let this get me down. I had plans today to go to a hotel overnight on a work thing and we are having spa treatments and dinner etc and I have decided that I am still going to go. And of course in 3 weeks I am going on holiday which dad has told me I had better go or else!!
Sorry for the depressing post, but I promised to update you all. Have lovely weekends whatever you are doing. I hope the sun is shining.
Love Bluebell35xx
| gigi |
| (member) |
| 05/07/2008 09:31 |
Re: It's Bad News
|
Bluebell I am so sad to hear this. Your dad is right, of course, that you should continue with your plans. If he at least needs surgery you will need these times away so that you will cope better with the worry and travelling. Also it will make your dad feel beter that you are still getting on with things. Thinking of you and sending hugs, xxG
| Chickadee |
| (member) |
| 05/07/2008 09:33 |
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
Bluebell, I'm so sorry - but your father sounds wonderful the way he's taken the news so calmly and insisted on you ahving your holiday. He sounds a lovely man and obviously cares a lot about you.
You are quite right to go for the spa and the break - you need to be strong and well to support him - and if he is worrying about you, that won't help his recovery.
Will be thinking of him in my prayers.
| issi |
| (member) |
| 05/07/2008 09:36 |
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
What sad news Bluebell. Try not to let your mind go awol before you know all the facts. I have a friend who has just recovered from bowel cancer, and will be seeing her tonight. x x x
| HeadGirl |
| (member) |
| 05/07/2008 09:44 |
|
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
Hi Bluebell,
I'm so sorry to hear the news about your Dad, but he sounds like he's taking it all in his stride and that must be of some comfort to you.
Keep doing as much as you can of all the things you have planned, as that will help to keep your mind busy and make the time go quicker. (Although we will all understand if you do not feel up to going to Covent Garden.)
Thinking of you and sending you lots of big hugs.
(Let me know if there's anything I can do.)
| Carey |
| (member) |
| 05/07/2008 09:48 |
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
So sorry to hear your bad news but try to keep your chin up and be strong and positive for your dad; bet he's worrying more about the effects on everyone else rather than himself. My mum had bowel cancer seven years ago when she was 70. It was a horrible horrible time but she got through it and is fine now.
| brandyqueen |
| (member) |
| 05/07/2008 09:56 |
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
hello bluebell sorry to hear your sad news, i echo the words of the other posts, and i am thinking of you. take care elaine x
| Bluebell35 |
| (member) |
| 05/07/2008 09:56 |
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
Thanks Girls
valaber - yes he is a wonderful man and I am very proud that he is my dad.
Heady - dont worry I am absolutely coming to Covent Garden. I am so looking forward to it and it will be a great distraction. I have even bought a new dress, although have not found anything yet to go over it. I might pop in to the ashford outlet tomorrow on my way back from the hotel.
I really ought to go and get ready to go to the hotel I have to be there in 2 hours and I am still in my nighty and have not packed.
See you all tomorrow evening when I am back (unless the hotel has internet :-)
Bluebellxx
| Peregrine |
| (member) |
| 05/07/2008 10:21 |
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
Thinking of you and your Dad Bluebell.
perry
| RunGirl |
| (member) |
| 05/07/2008 10:31 |
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
So sorry to hear this Bluebell; will be thinking of you and wish your dad well x
| Gemini |
| (member) |
| 05/07/2008 12:36 |
|
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
Hi Bluebell,
Sorry to hear your news re your dad, make sure he's ok wont you (silly thing to say I know!!!) some of us put on a "false" brave face you know. And you have a great relaxing time.
Big hug.
Alison xx
| girlie |
| (member) |
| 05/07/2008 12:39 |
|
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
sorry to hear about your dad bluebell, fingers crossed its not as bad as you are thinking x
| PurpleRain |
| (member) |
| 05/07/2008 13:13 |
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
Bluebell, sorry about your news, hope its not as bad as your are thinking, which I guess is natural.
You and your dad are so right for you to go to your weekend and any other outings you have booked, you need little distractions and breaks. Take care, x Anj
| expatK |
| (member) |
| 05/07/2008 13:40 |
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
Bluebell, I'm also sorry to hear your news.... hopefully your dad will get treatment early and he will be fine...
In the meantime, enjoy your relaxing time at the hotel, it's good to take some time out for yourself x
| Foxie |
| (member) |
| 05/07/2008 13:46 |
|
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
Hi Bluebell
So sorry to hear your news. The forum is here for sad news as well as happy tidings, so I'm really glad you posted.
Your Dad's attitude is fantastic and so typical of his generation. I hope I don't sound patronizing, but I truly admire their stoical acceptance of life and what is thrown at them. He is absolutely right about you going on holiday.
Hugs Foxie x.
| MancGirl |
| (member) |
| 05/07/2008 14:52 |
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
Hi Bluebell
I just came on to check how your Dad was and I'm sorry to hear it is not good news. My Dad has always been very matter of fact and calm about all his hospital visits and it sounds like your Dad is doing the same - this is the best way through, and it will help you that he is taking it in his stride. Be prepared for the operation - it is quite shocking to see someone you love after an op, with tubes etc. but before you know it he'll be on the mend and out and about. You are a strong woman and I know you can be strong for your Dad too - he must be so proud to have a daughter who cares so much about him.
Hope you can enjoy your hols despite this.
Manc Girl x
| Jane2008 |
| (member) |
| 05/07/2008 15:10 |
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
Blubell, so sorry to hear about your dad.
I remember the day my dad first told me he had been diagnosed with cancer. It was approximately ten years ago and it was just before Christmas. I was just rushing through the door to go and meet an old friend when the phone rang. I picked it up and it was my dad phoning to give me the bad news.
I got in the car and cried all the way to my friend’s house. She lived about an hour’s drive away, but when I arrived on her doorstep I couldn't remember the journey.
The good news is ten years later at 82 years old; my dad is still very much alive and kicking and is enjoying a very good quality of life! Sometimes when we hear the word 'cancer' we think of impending or inevitable death! But thankfully it is not always the case! Far from it in fact!
I really hope your dad is as lucky as mine. Take care of yourself and enjoy your holiday in three weeks time!
Jane X
| scarlett |
| (member) |
| 05/07/2008 15:46 |
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
Hi Bluebell35, have just got in and turned my laptop on, so sorry to hear about your dad, I know its hard but you must all keep positive, sounds like as its possibly on a small area that surgery will be the answer, nowadays cancer is not a death sentance, yes, something that has to be got through but if your all strong enough you will all including your dad come through this. We are all here for you as you know and above all have a great time tonight just enjoy yourself. x
| xxxSummerxxx |
| (member) |
| 05/07/2008 16:00 |
|
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
Bluebell ,so sorry to hear about your Dad.It will probably do you good to get away.Im sure both you and your Dad need time to take in the news.
| Peregrine |
| (member) |
| 05/07/2008 18:56 |
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
I'm sorry to hear it isn't good news about your Dad Bluebell. Try and stay positive for yourself and your lovely Dad.
I'm sending you and your Dad hugs
perry
| Lisafizzy |
| (member) |
| 05/07/2008 21:06 |
|
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
Hello Blubell,
I'm so sorry that the news isn't good about your Dad, I wish I could give you a hug. But you are right to say you are going to try and carry on as normal, as that is what your Dad will want you to do, I'm sure. I will say a prayer for your Dad and am sending you all my love. I hope you manage to enjoy your spa break, I'm sure it will help you to cope at his difficult time. Keep in touch and let us know how things go. Lisa. x
| susang |
| (member) |
| 05/07/2008 21:31 |
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
Sorry to hear about your Dad, i do hope things go ok for him.
Best wishes to you both.
| Vicky123 |
| (member) |
| 05/07/2008 21:46 |
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
Hi Bluebell. Just also adding to above that I am sorry to hear of your news but hope all will be okay. Its amazing these days how these things can be treated. I was only telling someone yesterday about how my brother fought the big C and 23 years later he's still fighting fit. Wishing you and your family all the best
Vicks xx
| BeauSoleil |
| (member) |
| 05/07/2008 23:05 |
|
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
Hugs from me too and best wishes for your Dad and his treatment-hope it goes well
xxx
| PatsyW |
| (member) |
| 06/07/2008 12:25 |
|
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
Sorry it wasn't the best news Bluebell, but you're Dad is right and you're doing the right thing in continuing as normal. Keep strong. Hugs.
| Ameliarose |
| (member) |
| 06/07/2008 19:45 |
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
Lots of hugs and good wishes to you both.
| Glitterqueen |
| (member) |
| 06/07/2008 20:36 |
|
|
Re: It's Bad News
|
Lots of love to both you and your dad x