| feathers |
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| 04/07/2008 11:11 |
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Applying is one thing, having your partner put in 'a word' could put him in a difficult position professionally. You might also blame him if things didn't go your way. Instead, ask him to help you prepare for an interview with tips about what the company looks for in candidates and how best to present your skills. You may find working on the same team as your OH is too close for comfort as you will inevitably have disagreements either at home/work which could jeopardise the other part of your life.
| susieblue |
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| 04/07/2008 11:11 |
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I don't think you have anything to lose by going for it. I'm sure your OH wants you to get it on your own merit but would be very surprised if he doesn't just mention something in passing. I work with my OH but we have a completely different situation. He is a surgeon and I work, from home, doing all the office work for his private practice from home. He sees patients at the private hospital so although we work together, we don't - if you get my drift. Certainly works for us. I'm not medical and the job is part-time. I work hours to suit myself and it is just me here, so guess I have the best of both worlds. Keeps my brain cell ticking over!
| Loo |
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| 04/07/2008 11:23 |
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I think Feather's has some good points. My OH quite liked me working and bringing in some money, but didn't actually want his wife to work. If you see what I mean. So he was drawn between the two.
Good luck with your job hunting.
Loo
| gigi |
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| 04/07/2008 11:35 |
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mine in the bag if he would but I find his attitude very unsupportive and unhelpful
There are very strict rules about interviews being open and fair, it would be more than they dare do to "put it in the bag for you" if your OH had a word with them.
| mjm |
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| 04/07/2008 12:05 |
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I met my OH at work, but when we actually got together, he changed his job, probably for the best!!
I hope you get the job Spendlove, and I too would feel let down by my OH if he wasnt prepared to supporting me in getting it, but also understand where the other girls are coming from.
| mjm |
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| 04/07/2008 12:26 |
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You never know Spendlove, you might just get the job without any imput from your OH. By law they have to advertise it, so just keep your cool, dont let it ruin your weekend!, just think positive thoughts.
And good luck.
| BeauSoleil |
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| 04/07/2008 12:29 |
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Spendlove
There is nothing that says you can't contact the boss yourself to find out a little more about the job and what/who they are looking for. That would perhaps show more initiative than getting OH to do it for you. It might also make them realise you have some get up and go. I have always done this before an interview and so far it has never done me any harm. You could always ring and ask for either a phone appointment at a later stage or for a face to face appt. All you have to say is that you are interested in applying but wanted to ascertain beforehand what they are offering and what attributes you need to have. It's all research and preparation isn't it?
As for working together, when we first together we worked together and people didn't know. We eventually got married and still people hadn't realised. Very professional!!
| Glitterqueen |
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| 04/07/2008 12:40 |
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I can't see anything wrong with you both working for the same company when you'll not even be working in the same location.
I'd like to get back to work and my OH suggested I work where he works. The problem is he is a director and I would feel uncomfortable - i've had this situation before when I worked as a temp while the children were at school. I never told anyone I worked with who my OH was and no one ever queried it as we have a fairly common surname.
| Shoelover |
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| 04/07/2008 12:45 |
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I don't think that there is anything wrong with working for the same firm as a spouse, but I personally would prefer not to be in the same area/office.
As for him putting a word in, I'm sorry, but I personally think that is an absolute no-no. If you are well qualified and have the right experience for the role, then you should get it on merit alone. Your OH rightly should remain absolutely neutral on the matter.
If anything, I would think that any "word" could have a negative effect.
Just my personal opinion!
| xxxSummerxxx |
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| 04/07/2008 12:55 |
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Spendlove,im not sure how old the Children are.
I gave up work when i had my first child and went on to have my second a year later.I used to take the Children to a Toddler group which i ended up running for a couple of years 3 mrnings a week.From that i also used to look after Two children with my own in the Holidays for 3 afternoons.
On the whole it worked well i was there for the Girls and feel they are secure and stable young adults.
Its certainly not easy to find a Job that fits in with the children and the pay is often poor.
For me working gave/gives me a sence of pride,i help pay the Bills in fact most of them apart from Shopping and Mortgage.Mind you the money both my oh and i earn is our money.
I personally wouldnt work with my HUsband if it was in same building but as Glitter says if its not in the same one ....
Go with YOUR gut feeling with this one.
| FrancesM |
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| 04/07/2008 13:24 |
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Spendlove,
You say that you are right for this job. Then go out and get it without any help from anyone else. It will give your confidence and self respect a huge boost.
The others ladie's comments are right any help in securing the job by OH 'putting in a good word' would be wrong. You must do this for yourself.
Good luck. I really hope you get the job.
FrancesM
| ChrissiFi |
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| 04/07/2008 14:00 |
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Go for it... Some companies have a no OH's policy (I've seen a couple having a 'domestic' in an office - embarrassing for everyone!) but most just prefer OH's not to work together so if you're not working on the same site or the same team it's unlikely to be a problem. Where I work one of the bosses has his wife working in his team but they're entirely professional about it, it's just a pain for the staff for a few weeks a year when both senior members of the team are on holiday at the same time!
| Jane2008 |
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| 04/07/2008 14:52 |
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I think you're really brave to even WANT to work with your husband! I couldn't stand to work with mine!! I love him to bits, but WORK with him??? No thanks!
Good luck with your application.
| issi |
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| 04/07/2008 15:05 |
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I think it's great Spendlove but I can see where your OH is coming from, a bit. He may think you are encroaching on his territory where he can be himself with his colleagues and where it is nothing to do with you. Personally the only way I would ever work with my OH would be if I were the boss and he the underling, and that could never happen.
| CheshireCat |
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| 04/07/2008 15:11 |
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I have to agree with Jane2008 - I would HATE to work for the same company as my OH. Loads of good reasons why this is a bad idea but a main one being what if the company closed? You would both be out of work.
Also, speaking as one who is involved in recruitment, your OH putting a good word for you is a definate no-no.
If this job is ideal for you and you for it then you should take it into your own hands and then just let OH know when you have been successful.
Good luck, if it's what you want I really wish you all the best.
| ChrissiFi |
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| 04/07/2008 15:34 |
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It might be easier getting a job elsewhere - they'll have no pre-conceived ideas about you. I know that my ex boss said that although she tried not to be she was always tougher on candidates who she knew or who had been recommended by people she knew (we hired a number of people from our customers) than those who were a complete unknown. If you're OH's one of their top performers they may expect miracles from you at interview too. Knowing someone in the company can work both ways (which is probably why your OH doesn't want to affect your application by putting in a word for you).
| ButterflyBlue |
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| 04/07/2008 17:19 |
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Yes you do deserve the opportunity but it should be on your own merit and not your OH putting in a good word. I would hate it if I got the job and everyone thought it was only because who I was married to and not because I had the appropriate skills and qualities.
Having said that I wouldn't want to work with my OH and I know he would want to work with me either.
Good luck.
| Foxie |
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| 04/07/2008 17:56 |
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Just to say that HR procedures are really tight where I work and no-one is allowed in through the 'back door'. Everyone has to go through the same interview procedure. I have had people ring me up after an interview to find out why they didn't get the job and asking for feedback. At these times I have been really glad of these procedures so I can give constructive and honest feedback. I think it is fairer too and I feel more comfortable.
Mr F teaches part time where I work and it just happens that I head up the area in which he works. To quote him "I'm his boss at work as well as at home!"
Foxie
| beejay |
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| 04/07/2008 20:18 |
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I thought you already had a job.What happened to it?
| J22 |
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| 05/07/2008 17:19 |
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We met at work and he was my boss! We worked together for 18mths and then I left. We also worked together a second time for 6mths without any problems though I had to be careful about what what I heard and pretend to be deaf at times especially when one I heard one person reveal her pregnancy and my OH (her boss) was unaware! I wouldn't involve your OH though.....I'm sure you can do it on your own merit!
| expatK |
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| 05/07/2008 17:41 |
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If the job is right for you- and you are right for the job- then you will get it. And on your own merit.
To be honest, I think it is unfair to expect your OH to 'put in a word for you'. It puts him in a very difficult position, no matter how much he loves you and wants you to have it. Plus, if HR got wind of this, they would be very unhappy about it- and this is exactly the sort of reason why a lot of companies frown on couples working in the same place or for the same company. All job applicants have to have the same chance and be treated equally- this is the law!
So, don't be hard on him... be confident, and do it on your OWN.
Good luck!
| chattycathy |
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| 05/07/2008 18:57 |
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I can understand your frustration Spendlove but times have changed and if it was found out that he ''put a word in''there could be big trouble from other employees...this could lead to bad feeling between you & your OH...I definitely wouldnt expect my OH to put a word in for me these days, but maybe in the past when that was the done thing I may have expected it...I hope you get the job on your on accord spendlove as you will feel so much better for it...
Best Wishes,
Cathy ...