I too am an apple. One of the first and most important things to do is to get a good bra. This will lift the boobs up and at least make it LOOK as if you have a waist. I am 5ft 4in and size 16 and 59 in March. I wear wrap dresses quite a lot and if I wear separates then always with a belt either round the middle or sort of hanging down at the front. This gives the impression of a narrower body part. I hope that helps