hi

I have been with my husband for 30 years (25married) and in that time he has needed a lot of support. He does not however reciprocate. He does not share his emotions or feelings and is very black and white. This is difficult for me as i like to process mine with others in order to make sense of them.

I have been depressed too and used counselling to help me, which it did and i have now realised i cannot change him. Like your oh he is a good man with qualities that i like in a man. No body is perfect and he is obviously a great provider. They say behind every great man is a great woman and you should congratulate yourself on helping him achieve his success.

I am suffering at the moment from empty nest and i realise i cannot rely on my oh to fulfil all my needs so i am looking into volunteering and am thankful for the opportunity to explore my interests wherever they may lie, rather than being stuck in a job i hated and worrying about money all the time.

Life is not perfect but if things are in ones control i believe one should make the best of them.

hope this helps