Julie
I know how it feels to just give and not get any emotional support back. It empties you and makes you feel guilty that you cannot give more as the other person continues to expect more from you and blames you for not being there for them, when that is all you re doing. It is just a cycle that goes on and on nad ends up with you accepting blame for something you are not responsible. I believe that no one person can be everything to another, that is why we have the wider family and different friends for that purpose.

I would suggest involvement in some form of exercise activity suitable for you , as it helps deal with a low mood. I agree with finding something meaning ful for you to do as in helping other, it will help to affirm to yourself that you are a good person and will give you satisfaction
back. What about thinking of developing interests and talents that you have and might have shelved in order to support your husband?
Your marriage has lasted for so long and you cant be the one to break it up as you have no reason to,just do not give up doing right because it seems insufficient to someone else.
I really wish you well for 2009. Remember life is not fair!
Tals