I have no experience of an eptopic pregnancy but did have a miscarriage early on in my first pregnancy. My H's brother and wife have not had any children and initally we thought that they didn't want them but gradually came to understand that they haven't been able to have any. They never speak about it but have gradually cut themselves off from the rest of the family especially when the younger children are around. It would have been good to be able to support them but haven't felt able to as they refused to talk about it. Perhaps your family don't want to upset you and you may find they would like to discuss it but don't know how to approach the subject.
It's never to late to address the hurt and upset you suffered and while it may not change the outcome it may help you have some peace about the situation.
Hope you find the support you find helpful
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