I noticed this post has had over 800 views and so I can only assume it reflects the large number of ladies on the forum that sadly have personally have been affected by this dreadful disease or knows someone like my friend who has it or had it and been though all the trauma.
I am calling on my friend tomorrow for just an hour or so as her OH has to go out.
My poorly dear friend is feeling low from the treatment, has a cold and is PMT. It is like with everything good or bad it all seems to happen at once. Life

Two good things happened yesterday

1. I found a tree lupin at a nursery near to a good friend down in Whitstable . I came out with last two Lupinus - arboreus or yellow tree lupin, one for my friend and one for me to take down to my sister's in August as she had one but it gave up on her last year.

2. The same garden nursery had all their fabulous bedding plants reduced to Ł1.10 per tray. I brought 6 trays of plants 2 of each of the following purple salvias, snapdragons,in soft sweet pea colours, and 2 trays of large flowering double cream marigolds.
I will use half and give the rest to my friend as she to is a keen gardener and can always. find a place that needs filling and brightening up.

Please keep up with the advice and help here as it is helping me and I am sure others in a similar position.
Bye for now from me Debbie