Hi Sial. I know what you mean. I am exactly the same. It's a real pain. If you eat, you put on weight. If you don't eat, you put on weight. If you merely look at food, you put on weight. I joined a ladies only gym and found that that helped to at least keep the weight static and think it was beginning to tone me up a bit - before it closed down! However the main thing I find helps is to cut out as much carbohydrate as possible and to curb (not stop altogether, we have to spoil ourselves occasionally!) the booze. Definitely helps, occasionally a couple of pounds will go, but I find it keeps things about the same. The problem arises when you have visitors etc. But I just have to think that I would be in an even worse state if I don't try that inbetween times. The menopause does not help. Age does not help. Hormones - who'd have 'em!!