Hello Dear Ducky
I do appreciate all the ideas and suggestions from everyone. Even if you think I am able to cope and understand me a little from my few postings on the forums over the months and year

I still feel so useless and at a loss as to what is best to do to help my friend.
So all your help and advice and kind thoughts are very welcome.
I had a restless night last night and could only think of how my poor friend and her family must be feeling.

I did post that card off last night and today I have free so I will go and look for a small gift, not sure what yet. Think I will pop it round to her and before her treatment starts Friday.

My brave friend mentioned she is at the moment feeling well and not in pain now and hopes to go to the RHS Hampton Court Place Flower Show today as she is a member since joining last summer when we and her OH visited one of the flower shows held in the RHS halls in Westminster.

I know she will love her day out at HCPFS as I went there last year with my mum as my treat for her birthday and along with my daughter and another close friend.

Thinking about it I go up and will get printed out some of the best photos for our trip to the RHS London Show that day last year as so far I haven't got around to it. I only emailed them a few of these photos at the time. Thats reminds me I think I have a small album tucked away that will be suitable.

I guess what many of you are all saying, some of you that have meet me and know me well from my postings on these W&H forums, is to just go with my natural instinct.
Having the courage and confidence to do this to is another thing entirely and there I do stop and think long and hard before I take the next step.

I knew you would all get your thinking caps on and help me out so thank you all so much. I will be sure to pass all your best wishes and your helpful suggestions on to my dear friend.

Your future support and advice will be more than welcome so please stay in touch.

Yours sincerely Debbie - dbverycherry