Hi Debbie - I'm really sorry to hear about your friend. I think if it was me I would make sure I stay in touch with her, as much as you are able to with your own circumstances. Whether it's a phone call just telling her that you care, or a card, or an offer of pracical help with whatever she needs. I think so many people back off when they hear bad news and it's hard for the person who's suffering when people suddenly disappear. You obviously care very much for your friend and I'm sure that your caring will shine through whatever you decide to do.