Plasmo and Duffy.
I have tried to express to to my friend that I will be there for her what ever and when ever.
I truly feel it is one of all our worst nightmares and i feel am helpless in as much as what to do and what will be best way to help for her. She has a son in his 20s who needs special physical help and care and I know she will struggle as she is his primary carer and has always been. My friend's OH's work have been good and are allowing him time off but it is still a huge strain on the family.
My dad suffered with cancer that had spread to the lymph glands. He was ill in hospital for three weeks. I was totally worn out and exhausted at the end as were all the close family and including my poor dear dad.
I do pray I will cope and be there for my best friend.