Debbie I know that you will be astute enough to be able to support your friend through all her difficulties , sometimes we feel we are not up to a task that is suddenly sprung upon us but I think the most important thing you can do just now is listen clearly to what your friend is needing and you will know how to offer her support I wish you well and dont hesitate to ask your other friends for help or advice you can certainly call on me if I can be of any help