Hi Gilda and welcome to the forum

I haven't been in your situation but have two very good friends who have. Both were left by the men they'd married and both were so hurt, but some years later both are now with much nicer guys and undoubtedly much happier.

Biogirl, your point about finding new friends who don't have a shared history or vested interest is a really good one. You both sound as if you are being positive and won't be defeated!

All best wishes

Mags