I agree in principle with all of you, but when my ED left school she worked for a year before going to uni, instead of rent we made her save for uni, she was staying at home during uni and we gave her a very small allowance and she used her savings, she finished uni with no debt. Then she set up her own business, so we allowed her to live rent free until that got off the ground, she really was plowing everything back into the business. That is now doing very well, and at 22 has moved in with her fiance and is getting married in Dec. She is very aware and responsible about finance and I have no regrets. However her two younger siblings are a dfferent story, and I don't think we will do the same with them. If there is no good reason for them not to pay then they will. They have nevr wanted for anything but are starting to seeit as their right - not on in this house.