I know I’m jumping in too late but I wanted to reply - your mother referred to your family as an accident. We generally see accidents as negative events that are traumatic and unwanted; I think this is why it has stung you.

We all now know that a women’s fertility steeply declines post 35 and problems can occur, including your mum - she’s probably panicking for her and is naturally concerned.

Most women (thank goodness) can choose when to have their children. My best friend is pregnant now at 41, with my two now at school I feel distressed on her behalf, but she planned it this way and I respect her decision. Her sister is 19 and pregnant for the 2nd time…through choice. No-one is begrudging anyone.

If I’m honest, anyone wanting, trying and failing to have a child is bound to feel resentful to anyone that has one, and when some women conceive so easily (or by ‘accident’) it must seem so unfair.

Don’t feel guilt for having your family when you did. It was obviously right for you. Your life, your choice.