I have been reading all the posts and it has brought tears to my eyes. Debdee I'm with you all the way. I have a D of 16 and S & D of 15 (yes, twins). they are lovely kids, but they drive me mad. My D has just finished GCSE's and hardly gets out of her pj's, lies on the sofa all day complaining that day time TV is rubbish. My other two are still at school but by the time I get home from work the mess is so depressing. I have my own business and often work 6 days a week and trying to get them to help out is impossible.

I have a go at them, and they will help out for a day or so, then back to their old ways. I tell them I have no money, but they still eat everything in the house so i have nothing to cook with. My son once had a mate sleep over and after i had gone to bed he pinched a full bottle of gin and drank it. He didn't even hide it, he put it in the recycling bin (well at least one thing has sunk in!!!)

not only are their bedrooms a tip they overspill into mine and I find all their make up, hair gel and dirty clothes spread about. I am at my wits end with them all. the house is horrible, messy and stained carpets.

Their father used to have them 50% of the time, but rejected them totally last August, so they are angry with him and he has the gall to tell me that he isn't happy with my parenting skills.

I have no idea how Uni will be funded, I don't have spare cash to give them. i get no maintenance from my ex and he says he will give them an allowance if they beg for one. (which they won't) Why did I have 3 children in 15 months. Seemed like a good idea at the time, but i wasn't banking on getting a BOGOFF (buy one get one free) with the twins!!!

I know it will be ok in the end, it's just now that is hell!! We need to support each other during this time.