Hi, have just re read all your replies thank you for taking the time and have decided to let the remark pass.
After giving it some thought have decided she was right not to judge me at the time. She was also very supportive including getting me through my exams others including (future) MIL and friends weren't so kind. I probably wouldn't have done so well if I felt my parents weren't behind me.
I am still very surprised though not to have known how she felt even after 20 years, we are a very close family and I thought I knew her as well as she knows me.
Still unsure how my sister feels though. She hasn't spoken to me yet or her OH's sister but I'm coming over to UK when the school hols start so I can spend a bit of time with them all and they all seem glad about that.
Thanks again,
A2