Hi Acoustic

I had my three kids young, like you. Most of our group of friends in the 80s did the same. I'm also still happily with their dad.I don't think people resent it, but I think a few who struggled to have a family, having waited till much later, are a little envious.We are approaching 50 now; kids more or less grown up and enjoying the new freedom. I wouldn't change where we are in our lives and I bet you wouldn't either.

I think it's natural for a mum to focus her concern on the child who's having a difficult time and that's what your mum's doing with your sister. It was a thoughtless remark, but I'd let it pass. My MIL was really unpleasant to me when I got pregnant for the third time... why did I want another when I already had "one of each"?... it wasn't fair on her son, etc...( I wonder who she thought got me pregnant?! ) But without question she loves her youngest grandchild now he's here.

I do hope things go well for your sister and the two babies. you can always have a chat with your mum in the future if you still feel upset, but I'd try to let her comment pass if you can. You have to do that in families quite a lot I find....

Mags