Alison, I promise you it will get better. It took me a couple of years before I felt comfortable bumping into my ex but now (15 years on) we're actually quite good friends - the first few months I'd never have believed I could even speak to him again let alone socialise. The first few months were horrible and even after I started seeing my now husband there were still black days but they did get less. I kept reminding myself of ex's bad points whenever I felt one of those moments coming on - sometimes it did help! Many of us have been there at some point so remember we're here when you need us (a virtual shoulder to cry on so to speak).

Chrissi
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