Acoustic2
(member)
19/06/2009 12:03
YOUNGER MUMS vs OLDER MUMS, upset by mother's remark

I had my first child young at 21 when I was still a student after falling pregnant accidently.I was in a solid relationship and we are still together having had a further 2 more kids when I was 23 and 28. I am now 41.
My sister who is 38 is expecting twins (her first pregnancy) . She had IVF because time wasn't on her side not for medical reasons but has just found out one twin is very sick and not likely to survive. The whole family is very upset and rallying round to be supportive. As I live in France I haven't been able to see her and she doesn't want to talk to anybody at the moment so I have been kept updated by my mum who lives close to her.

Chatting to my mum yesterday on the phone she got upset and said "You were lucky, you had an accident but it all worked out well for you, but your sister who has never done anything wrong and works so hard doesn't deserve this"
She was upset so I didn't respond just pretended I hadn't heard but it left me shocked.
I think there are a lot of women out there who do regret not having kids younger but since my conversation yesterday I'm wondering whether us younger mums are resented as that's how I feel at the moment.


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