i cried when i read all your messages i have never felt so alone in my life i dont have any family to talk to about this and all his family think he is perfect...i have taken all your advice and julie your a angel for your advice you have made me see a clear picture of all the last few years abuse ..but i have to face up to the truth they has been more bad times than good and never a week goes by without him swearing abuse at me in front of our little girl,,when i asked him to stop he would just say she ok but my other daughter would come downstair and he would treaten to smash her face in....( she is his stepdaughter) i always shrugged it off because he was a saint putting up with my children from first marriage he always drilled into me ( we have a 5 year old) over the last few days he has woken children up at 6am swearing banging doors smashing cups etc because my eldest daughter refuses to talk to him after he hit me few years ago he said he was pushed into doing it as i wouldnt listen and shut up and he calls her all names she just stays in her room most of time ..i feel such a failure ..he keeps txting asking how 5 year old is and wants to talk to her i said no ..children are all ok today i have to say i wasnt expecting any replys but am so glad you all care thats not what am use to am use to going it alone thank you to all you have made me see a glimer of hope x