Don’t under-estimate what having a baby can do to a relationship.

My youngest child started school last year and my OH took a day off recently; we realised that this was the first time that we had been just ‘a couple’ during the day for a whole decade.

We’d almost forgotten to be partners as we’d only been mum and dad - and that was how we saw each other. We held hands for the first time since 1999. Ridiculous!

Looking back on this now, I can see how important time alone as a couple is. Perhaps you view him as just a dad; perhaps part of you resents that his life hasn’t changed much whilst yours is turned upside down; not saying you do feel like this – only can go by my experience.

You do need to tell him how you feel; he can’t even begin to make changes if you don’t.

I’m not saying (in any way) that all relationships are the same but even if you were married to Brad Pitt, surely the spark would eventually fade but hopefully (like my parents) you remain commitment partners who love each other.

You may, of course, be deeply unhappy and that is another matter altogether.