Certainly after many years of abuse from previous husbands and in the community i lived in, i lost trust in people. Now, living in a different place, with a kind husband who can also be very much into himself,i am begiinning to look after myself more.I have found so much support from the ladies on these forums but also i have been encouraged that most people are ok.I have no family and rarely hear anything from Husbands family, they dont like my son being here, yet i am a giving person. You learn in the end who to give too and who to hold back from! Yet human beings can show wonderful qualiies as well as truly selfish behaviour.I am very much keeping to myself but aware that good things can happen.