My Husbands family really dont want to know about my children even the one who lives here. So when the time comes i will arrange everything or allow his Brother to do it if hes around, and just let them get on with it.I dont go to the area they live in but my husband wishes to be buried there, so i wll say my goodbyes here. also my son.If i die before him then his sister or brother will take over, one of them will. My son has a learning disability and neither of us would want the family to upset him, we simply dont go there.My Husband visits them but we cant. Best wishes xx