Hi Jessica. I think this is a lovely situation where the lady realised he had the family connection and she didn't want to upset that. On the day - although I am sure she would have liked to have been there she had her time at their favourite place which is just great. I often think if anything happened my OH I could not face the whole funeral scene and would prefer to be some-where we had our memories but sometimes we are dictated to but it makes me think I may prefer to be some-where we had our memories. Hope this helps Jessica - I think it is a lovely idea. aec