Hi Ifdanny and welcome.

You've had some great advice already. I do recognise what you say about the effect a stressful job has on a relationship; also what skippy says about her husband being a different person at the weekend.

I think it will realistically be difficult for your husband to change how things are through the week but I would aim for making the weekends more fun. If you have a close and happy time then, you will feel happier generally, even on the days where he isn't able to show much interest in things because he's so tired and stressed.

I think it's going to be up to you to initiate the changes. He's probably too preoccupied with work to have the energy to think creatively. Can you plan ahead to do something next weekend you'll both enjoy - a walk, a film you'd like to see or anything you used to enjoy doing together in the past. Or get a DVD and snuggle up together on the sofa with a glass of wine... that's not too demanding for a tired man! Or breakfast in bed with the papers is relaxing too.

If he is basically a decent man who's finding his job exhausting, then a nice time at the weekend would do him good too. Through the week, I think it's important for you to do things for yourself; that's not selfish, because if you are happier and more fulfilled the whole atmosphere between you will be better.

The family is an ideal age for letting you have more time together as a couple and you're addressing this at just the right time because you have a few years before the house is empty to rediscover how to have a good time just the two of you. If your husband is willing to make a few changes I would be optimistic that gradually you could start to feel much happier; I hope so

Best of luck

Mags