Hi Ifdanny,

I have just turned fifty, have a daughter on the verge of going to University, (she is eighteen tomorrow) and a son who is 15.

I am on my second marriage and have to say I am very, very happy.

The only thing to blot the horizon is the fact that ED will be leaving home and in two years time, I expect YS will do the same when he goes to Uni. I have talked this over with OH, (their step father) who is brilliant. He has told me to try not to think of it as everthing coming to an end, but as a new begining. How I should see that we are building a future for our children and how we will always be here to support them.

He has suggested that I look for new interests to fill my time and that I should look forward to some 'me' time.

I am torn...I will hate to see them go, but I am also interested to see how we will get on together when we are on our own. We certainly have lots of daydreams about travelling together, which is exciting.

I hope you find a way to feel 'visible' again and that you and your OH work things out. I definately think you should talk to him about your feelings. Maybe he is feeling something similar and doesn't know how to tell you?

Good Luck, best wishes.xxx