Hi Ifdanny, and 'Welcome to the Forum', I quite understand where you are coming from,but obviously as I don't know you at all,advice is a bit difficult.

However, from my personal experience, as my OH is also in a stressful job, I have occasionally put my foot down and said No to shop talk, and insist we go out,if only for a walk and stop at a nice pub or coffee place somewhere.

As a couple we don't have mutual friends either, but I do belong to the local ladies group and have made many friends there, it's not W.I., although they are very good, but it is a modern version.

I'm going to presume that your YD is also your last child. If you don't work, would a job,part or full-time help you to fill that social void in your life. Or maybe, to start a course of your own choosing at the local college.

There are many ways in which to increase frinedships and I for one have found them right under my nose, i.e. this forum and a couple of others.

I combine a chat with my work,(I work from home) and often arrange to meet up with fellow forummers who are local to my area for lunch. We all have tremendous fun together.

Now that you have joined on here, by joining in, you will soon become anything but invisible, and find many other areas of conversation to discuss with your OH.

Ignore the fact that you are 50, so what, age is nothing but a number, build your friendships up round and about you, and who knows,given time,those friendships may eventually include your OH as well. It does happen,

Also if your YD is your youngest,then you may also be feeling that 'empty nest' syndrome, which has been very much discussed on here. Hopefully, someone will pick up on this and guide you in the right direction.

Wishing you all the best, enjoy the forum and its support,it comes by the bucketload. lol