Wise words, Gigi, and thanks for responding. Yes, time to take stock and take each hour/day as it comes. At work I can be distracted and daughter is on study leave "revising" (whilst on Facebook/eating/listening to music) for AS exams, so she needs time from me as well. It all seems such a waste of lives, when we enjoyed each others' company and got on so well but, as you say, the distance may have been hiding subtle changes that I missed.