My widowed father lives on his own in a big house He is registered disabled but manages to 'get by'.He has a Care Manager and access to support fron social services which he refuses.He is also entitled to financil benefits which he claims but does not spend.He is very melancholy but says that he is not depressed. My mother died 5 years ago, I think he is still grieving over her, the house is like a memorial to her, her hairbrush with hair in it is still on the dressing table and her used tissues are still there. He is finding it increasingly difficult to get out and about,has few friends. He will not accept help in his home or move out into sheltered accomodation or move in with us. His GP says that there is nothing that he can do if Dad refuses assistance. I speak to him every day on the phone but I dread visiting him and seeing mum's stuff. He visits me every Sunday for lunch and is very demanding. It's got to the stage where I don't want to see him or entertain him anymore for a while and this makes me feel teribly guilty. I have one sister who lives a long way off and doesn't help at all. What can I do ?