I can't make up my mind about my D's boyf. On the plus side he is a very polite chap, hard working (when it suits him) and treats my D very nicely - when they lived in NZ he really looked after her (she's a bit dizzy like her mum), D likes his mum and is friends with both his sisters, he's very serious about the environment.

On the negative side he is a total hippy - only wants to surf, doesn't believe in having a 'job' (although he never sponges - always pays his way) lives in a camper van (D has been there, done that, had enough) never wants to get married, settle down or have a mortgage. Also, he doesn't like animals much - especially cats (very un-hippy)and we all love animals, especially cats!

Also, when they were living in a camper van in Devon, we went down to see them and stayed in a guest house. They had his teenage brother staying with them and my teenage son slept in a tent next to the van. Boyf took his brother out fishing every day and refused to invite my son as they wanted some 'brother time' even though the boy had already been there for a week and spent every day with him. I think that is rude after all the hospitality we have shown him.

D is only 23 but they have been together 5 years and she would like to have children one day. I just worry that she is going to turn round one day at 40 odd and realise it is all too late.

As I say, not sure but having written all that down I realise that I do have a problem with him! I haven't seen him since xmas as he spends all his time on his allotment. Maybe he doesn't like me either - Doh!