OK SG, now lets get one thing clear.

As your virtual MIL.

I dont do babysitting.

I expect flowers every week.

Sunday lunch every other week.

Presents for my birthday and Christmas
and "surprises" every other month.

Designer bags only please.

OH almost forgot, will go on foreign holls with you
but dont expect me to sit in.

On a more serious note - try talking to her and telling her how you feel.

Good Luck.