Thanks so so so so much for your brilliant replies - a real mix of emotion, humour, and experience both good and bad. It's comforting to know it's not just me (not that I thought that anyway, but you know what I mean) and it's been interesting mulling over your advice. What lovely ladies you all are. Yes Carrie - please be my 'virtual' MIL!!!!

I will let you know how it all goes, but meanwhile thanks for your contributions - they were great.

Hugs all round

SG65 xxx