Sorry you are having a tough time. Not sure if it has changed but I was told when I got divorced some years ago now that as far as the court is concerned, 14 is the age when the child makes up his/her own mind about whether they want to see the parent at all - let alone on a regular basis. The courts will always put the needs of the child first - adults feelings don't come into it. Worth checking this out.

I know it is difficult and you may even find the very idea unthinkable - but the cheapest way to divorce is to go the route that allows you to both meet in the solicitor's office and he tries to get you to agree the settlement. It has a name but I can't think of it now. I wish I had done this and saved some money but we were in a very bad place at the time and I thought my ex would screw me over but looking back, it would probably have been alright.

Good luck with whatever you decide x x x