Thanks Betty & Collete
I know you are both right but it is so hard when there is nothing I can say to her.
Thought about getting my H to talk to him but I don't think that would do any good, if he can watch his family hurting and still pick up that bottle, nothing H can say will alter his thinking.
My friend is only in her 40's but will she still be there for him in 10yrs if he carries on I don't think so!
Sorry to go on so but feel so helpless for her and can't get her out of my mind today.....
Jen