I have a wonderful DIL. As we only had two boys she's like the daughter we never had. ES and DIL have a lovely little girl whose 3. When they booked their wedding for last December her mam called to see me and told me as I only had boys I would never have the excitement of a daughter's wedding. So I was part of the wedding plan from day one. I was so grateful for that. I was also included in the Hen weekend. I swore from day one that I would never turn out like my own MIL who was a total b****. As my own mother had died just after my own wedding I always felt I had no family to fall back on. I swore when my time came I would be different.

I hope I am as DIL and I get on great. She calls me every day either on phone or text and we do things together like mother & daughter would. I will never call to their house unless invited or phone first and would never take sides or even listen to them moaning about each other if they have a tiff. "Not my business" is my answer. Her parents are lovely and we often meet up for a drink in each others houses and would include and be included in all family parties.
My other son has a lovely girlfriend too and hopfully I'll be a nice MIL to her when the time comes.