Cupcake, it must have been so hard for you. My MIL had my husband "out of wedlock" in 1958. She had no support whatsoever. Her family insisted that she not keep him or they would disown her. She worked (as a nurse) up until a fortnight before the birth and said she has never known such heartache as walking out of that hospital with empty arms. There was no counselling, just forget about it and get on with things. She didnt meet OH until he was 45... What cruelty...