Thank you for all your good advice and support, I've tried to work on being positive and most of the time I am OK but my self belief is fragile, I keep my relationship with my ex OH as brief as possible which does help but he has this subtle knack of pressing the wrong buttons,In a funny way I think he expects me to be pleased that his life is going so well,I am feeling more positve this evening, I think this afternoons shopping spree helped as well.