Annemari, I doubt that you have never lived with a violent partner. Do you know how many women are killed by their partner each year or that on average women are hit many, many, many times before they report a partner. It's not a question of sitting down quietly to discuss it. That simply doesn't work.

Your comment about locks on doors says it all. You appear to be incredibly naive. Giving someone such advice often just makes them feel even worse and inadequate. IT IS NOT HER FAULT.

I sincerely hope that you are never at the receiving end of such behaviour. No marriage with such behaviour is worth defending.