Hi Mary
You're so right about the medical age gap - as soon as Ben said he wouldn't go back to the counsellor, I tried to intervene but overnight after his 16th birthday they refused to talk to me about him. I have also tried to alert his new GP but they simply replied saying they couldn't discuss the matter but have 'noted' my comments - went so far as to say they couldn't even raise the issue with him unless he did so himself!
As you say, it's 'tread carefully' - frankly feels like walking on eggshells......
He knows I'm here and he knows I love him so hopefully he will talk to me eventually.. I am texting him each day just to say Hi and update him with any news - trying to meet up with him for lunch once a month too..