Thanks everyone for replying. What I meant about the kids not needing us is us that they are in their bedrooms most of the time doing teenage stuff and aren't so keen for family stuff any more, I do still love OH as I suppose it wouldn't upset me so much if I didn't. I know it's all down to communication but I suppose with all blokes they just don't open up. I will have another go and talk to him, You never know how you come across yourself do you and if he thinks I'm a miserable cow he's hardly over keen to be jolly himself.
He bought me an Ipod today so that might be his way of non verbal still luv ya babe,