Has anyone any advice. My husband has a very low libido and no get up and go, doesn't make an effort with his appearance for me and worst of all won't talk about our problems. He won't argue either so I've got all these pent up emotions. He's 50. I'm 48. Am I expecting too much to have a bit of excitement, love and romance at our age. But there must be more to us that going food shopping and housework. We've two kids 17 and 14, they don't want us but we still have to be around. How can a marriage survive when the kids grow up and there's just this emptiness. Shall I give up altogether?