Very strange.
I was married at 17 and divorced at 37.I was pregnant with our daughter when we married and we were obviously far too young.However,we lasted a while through ups and downs.My daughter suffered a brain injury in a car accident at 17 and although has long term problems she has settled into supported housing a few miles away.
Throughout the time of her rehab her father and i grew steadily apart.I was trying to be positive about the situation but he was so negative all the time.He never discussed things and shut himself away from me.
I told him very simply one day that i no longer loved him.There was no drama and no tears.Just a complete realisation that i felt nothing for this person any more.He seemed very surprised and couldnt understand why i hadnt said i was unhappy!Thats all i had been saying!
Im really good at showing my feelings and he could not have been in any doubt how i was feeling.If theres one thing i know its that it is futile to keep things bottled up.You must get it out there even if its not nice.Surely you were aware things were not right?I am not saying it is your fault at all.We all know there are two sides to this.But i cannot believe this is such a surprise to you!
I so hope that this is not the end of the road for you both and that maybe you can talk through your problems.It wasnt an option for us.
Just would like to say though that sometimes when you think that the most terrible thing is happening,things do get better.
I remarried at 40years old to the most wonderful man who is my soulmate.We never stop talking. love and luck to you